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This is probably lame and a waste of your time to read, but if you want to, go ahead. I seriously think something is wrong with me. I am usually a nice person, but I feel so frustrated altely. People think Im fake cause Im like nice all the time. I know its impossible to be nice all the time, but I feel like if I be mean, then Im not making the world a better place.
Ugh, I don't know I feel so inferior to my best friend, she has all the guys and I don't. If I sound immature im sorry, its just that I wanna cry. I feel so much like crap. No guys like ever like me, the ones I like are all taken, i don't know its probably me. I was reading this phobia list and I have like every phobia that has to do with love. It makes me so upset, b/c I never been in love, I want to know what its like, but every chance I get with a great guy, I run from it. I think im crazy, i don't know why anyone would want to be with me. It probably goes back to middle school, I had something happen to me, that I can't escape. I have tried to get over it sometimes I can't but sometimes I want to hurt myself in regret. ugh. I notice that im really negative about myself but nice to everyone else. Im losing interest in singing which I love to do. I feel like i suck at everything. I have an ocd problem and sometimes it gets so intense that I feel like id be better off dead.
I know this may seem totally over dramatic, and if i was reading this about someone else Id tell them to calm down. But sometimes thats easier said then done. I don't even know what im asking, and at this point it seems so effortless.
Can anyone explain whats going on with me? I'm scared of losing myself.
thank you so much for your help, I realize that i am totally insane, so no need to mention it.
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I don't think you are being overly dramatic. I have had similar problems. I always tried to be kind to everyone, but I felt like everyone else is thought it was stupid of me to because everyone had a mean side to them. And what would happen was that the meanness that I didn't put on others, I actually ended up unleashing on myself. And that is exactly what you are doing. You are bringing yourself down because you don't take out your frustration on any other source. Wow, it's insane that you ask this because I was having this same conversation with my friend last night about me. What she told me was that I needed to tell people when something was bothering me. See sometimes, I don't like to burden people with my problems because I feel like they have their own, but I am only hurting myself by not letting my feelings out. So tell someone if you are upset. Tell your best friend that you need help, I guarantee she will do her best.
As for the relationship phobia, this issue can be challenging. I have been in one relationship, and it was awkward and didn't end well, so ever since then I haven't been able to properly show any guy who I really am. I get nervous and weird, and feel completely uncomfortable. I don't know if the same applies to you, but I do know for sure that someone would want to go out with you. You aren't completely insane, you are just going through something. All I can really say is that you have to talk about your problems, like you have done with this question. I find that when I bottle up my emotions, that is when I go crazy. I know people always say to "be yourself" around guys, but its more than that. If you meet a guy, just talk to him like you would to anyone else. If you feel like you are making a fool of yourself, don't worry, it's all completely in your head. He won't even notice. Just try to control your emotions as best as possible, and if your medical condition is really bad, then also consider seeing a doctor to possibly prescribe something that might help. I hope that I have helped you.
yay im so glad i could help you! =]
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Thank you so much for answering my question. I really need to find a balance between being good to everyone and negative about myself. I agree with your friend, talking to someone about what your feeling is a good way to get over it, I know what you mean though, I don't like to burden people with my problems either. About the relationship I guess I'm just really scared of getting my heart broken, I don't put myself out there, and most guys I want to date have girlfriends. I guess the timing just isn't right yet. Yeah I know, the "be yourself" thing is challenging, and a little scary. You have really helped me, as did the other person that answered me. I really appreciate it, b/c now reading it again, it doesn't seem that important, and that I was indeed just going through something. I will be okay, and thank you so much again. :)
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