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Okay, i've known this girl christie for so long that i can call her my sister. I've known her since 6th grade, and since then we've hung out basically every weekend and every day during the summer. I'm apart of her family.
then this girl casey comes along [i introduced them, i was friends with casey first before christie] and she ruins our friendship/sisterhood.
well, im best friends with christie again, but not with casey. christie is having her sweet16 in december. shes putting casey on her candles BEFORE ME. that really pissed me off and i just wanted to LEAVE her house. casey is candle 7, im number 8. I told her that it pissed me off and she said suck it up. I told my sister and she said its not a big deal, but deep inside it hurts me to death that she thinks about casey before me. and her and casey havent been hanging out as much. casey is going into 9th grade, and christie and i are going into 10th. Don't you find that annoying? Imagine if your best friend dedicated a candle to someone you introduced to them first.
Is it okay that im feeling this way? jealous.. i think thats what i would call it. i told her that i should be before casey, but she just ignored me. and my friend bekki was also over and she said she doesnt know what christies deal was for that, and she found it bitchy too.
i need alot of help. i was thinking about leaving after the 6th candle goes up for the bathroom so i dont kill the girl. and come back intime for me to be called up for the 8th.
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I have personal experience with a really similar situation and I want to tell you that this is completely natural. I have two best friends that I introduced and I remember feeling just as you do right now. I even told my other friend and she would tell me that it wasn't cool that they were always together and that it was messed up. I never told them how I felt though because I was embarrassed. I think that jealousy comes from fear, fear that something is wrong with us that is making the other person want to hang out with someone who is better. It's insecurity. It probably isn't great hearing that you might be insecure but I hope you don't take this the wrong way. I honestly think that your friends care deeply about you. But you have to try to let go of the thought that she thinks about Casey more than you. You owe it to your friends to not be mad at them for unintentionally hurting your feelings. Once you get rid of the jealousy you'll find that you will be much happier and feel closer to your friends. I wish you the best.
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thank you :) you put alot of effort into your answer! keep it uppp
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