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I'm a 21 year old female from Nova Scotia, Canada. I'm not as active on this site as I once was, but I will almost certainly reply to private questions sent to me.
Let's see, about me. I've been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia Syndrome, Clinical Depression, as well as some other related mental and physical illnesses. Despite this, I'm happier now than I can ever remember being.
I've been a vegan since August 2007. In other words, I do my best not to consume anything of animal origin, ranging from the obvious (meat), to the somewhat obvious (eggs and dairy), to the not-so-obvious (honey, wool, silk, and more). I love this life. I have so much more appreciation for everything and everyone around me, and I feel so at peace with myself and the world. I wake up everyday and know that I'm making a difference. It's been a huge turning point in my life.
I recently graduated from high school after an extra three years due to my illness. It was a long road, but it felt amazing to walk across that stage. An added bonus was having the 15th highest average (over my high school career) out of 258 students!
I intend to pursue a career in psychology, first obtaining my BA, and then attending graduate school in order to study for my PhD. It's a little daunting at times, but I know it will be worth it. I want to help people, plain and simple. I want to make a difference. I want to change the world. And I believe I can, if only in a small way.
I think that's me in a nutshell. I also enjoy writing, knitting, multiple other artistic endeavors (including drawing, photography, music, and more), web design, and many other things. So, feel free to drop me a message if you think there's something I can help with.
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Hello everyone-I hope someone will be in a position to help me. Basically, I feel fat-I don't think I really am, but I've just started on a healthy eating program(1000-1100 kcal per day) and am trying to build up more excercises in my daily routine. Now I'm not saying I'm anorexic or anything, but I did look at one of those "ana" websites late last night and while I was shocked and sickened, a part of me did see the allure of forcing myself down to a much smaller size (I am 5'7, and size 8 on top,6 on the bottom). I'm trying to tone up for a wedding in three weeks where I just know everyone will be super thin, and it's freaking me out. I had an eating disorder a few years back, but feel that I'm really to old for these issues now(I'm 25f). I have two opposing voices in my head right now-it's good to eat healthy, take excercise, blah blah, vs. I wasn't fat, I wasn't unhappy, and my boyfriend loves me just the way I am. But I would love to lose just that extra 7lb.......Anyone identify?
A few things about your question concern me. First of all, 1000-1100 calories is not enough. The absolute minimum recommended is 1200 calories and even that seems too low for your height.
I suspect you're not even close to being overweight. Size 6-8 is more than reasonable at your size. Losing 7lbs strikes me as potentially scary, especially with your background.
Not everyone at the wedding will be super thin and I can pretty much guarantee that you'll be the only one paying attention to your own dress size. Weddings are about the bride and groom, not about whether or not someone has an extra inch around their waist (and for the record, I doubt you do).
But everything I say is kind of moot until you can accept yourself. I can't fix this for you. I can hurt for you--and I do--but in the end, it comes down to you.
You are not "too old for these issues." If you didn't fully resolve them in the past (and you don't mention seeing a therapist or anything, so I wonder if you actually did, or if you just kind of started eating again), you're still going to keep dealing with them over and over again. You need to really kick this thing.
I understand the opposing voices well. One's the logical voice and the other is emotional. And the logical voice knows you should be listening to it, but the emotional voice is very persuasive, no?
Losing weight--you know in your heart it won't change the way you feel about you. Know how I know that you know it? Because you've been there before. You had an eating disorder, and that means that losing five pounds, or ten pounds, didn't make you happy.
I identify with where you're at, I truly do. I'm overcoming my own eating disorder, and it's a hard thing to do. But it's worth it. That much I can say. It's scary at times, but it's SO worth it.
Please consider visiting a therapist who can help you deal with these feelings. And please recognise that losing weight isn't going to fix what's inside. The only way to change that is by concentrating on it--not what you eat. Concentrating on food is just another way to avoid what's really hurting.
Take care of yourself. You deserve it.
Daimeera,
21/female
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Thank you thank you thank you. Wow, you are so mature, much more so than I was at your age. I really appreciate everything you have said, because I know it to be true. Well done on your own healing-it's a struggle but I know we will win through! Thanks again.
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