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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

Much love, Teza

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I will not make this a long, drawn out story, but will say that my ex and I dated on/off for 8 months. We broke up Feb 07, but we often run into each other around town. He has asked me to get back together several times, but I'm so afraid that the same things that will happen that led to us breaking up. He randomly texts or calls me just saying "I want you back". All last summer I dated a guy and I thought things were great. We broke up just before school started and now I find out that things weren't what they seemed at all. He was using me and talking to "his first love" the whole four months we were together. Deep down I knew that I was just going through the motions of dating this guy in the summer. I still had feelings for my 1st bf. When he heard I was single, he called me and we tried to go out again, but it didn't work. I stayed single until Jan 08 and now I go out with a guy who is okay, but I'm starting to have mixed feelings about him. He yells at me all of the time and anytime I get in trouble with my parents he tells me it is obviously because I am extremely stupid. It really hurts when he talks to me like this, but other times we get along. He tells me that he will never break up with me, if I don't want to go out with him it is up to me to break up with him. Well, my first bf has been texting and calling me again for about 2 weeks now. He tells me he will do anything to get me back. We have the same lunch block and he just sits there and stares and smiles at me. Even though I know we don't stand a chance of making things work, I still love him and I want him back. I know it is wrong to talk/text him behind my current bf's back. I even kissed him last week. I want to move on, but I keep getting pulled back by old thoughts and feelings. What should I do? I think I'm going to break up with my current bf because I know it's not fair to stay with him when I have feelings for someone else.

If a guy is going to call you stupid and yell at you all the time, it's not worth staying with him and you're obviously not that happy with him. Look at the things that made you and your first boyfriend break up. Take those bad things and see if you can fix them. What was the problem? & how you both can make it better this time. Talk to him and let him know that this is the last time you're willing to try and make the relationship work. If things don't work out for whatever reason, move on. Stop talking to him because that is the only was you'll ever get over him.

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