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It's fine.Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.
Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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Well for the past year i feel as if i put about 85% of the effort in me and my boyfriends relationship. Now he is a good boyfriend but its just the way i feel. Well i let my jelousy get in the way of our relationship ( so he says .) And he broke up with me monday night , But tuesday he told me how big of a mistake he made and he was truly sorry , he loved me with all his heart etc. But i want him to ( need me now ) . This whole year it was like he was my " Life support ". And when he had broken up with me my heart was broken and i mean broken . And i realized it wasnt healthy to be where i have to depend on a guy. I love him so much but this time around id like to turn the tables , ya know ? I took my moms advice ( not to call , text him etc. but to let him do all the calling ) and it worked , yesterday i only called one time and he called me 3 or 4 times , when usualy its me caling like every 10 mins . its hard but it makes me feel as if im not the " damsal in destress " . But how do i get him to be more ( on me , than me on him ) if that makes sence . I dont call him , he calls me ... What else . i want him to cator to me now . I love this boy , hes a major part in my life . This sunday will be our year . Advice please & no stupid stuff please . thanks :)
You should tell him how you feel about you putting most of the effort. Love isn't a one-way street (cliche, but it's true).
It's great that you've realized you deserve some effort from him (more than you've been getting now anyways) and now it's time for him to know that he can't have you if he's gonna be lazy about this relationship...
Clearly, he wants a second chance and knows he's messed up. He's trying to make it right now, so points for him. But just remember: It didn't feel too great for you to do most of the 'work', right? I wouldn't completely turn the tables on him, because relationships should be give and take on both sides. You need equality, not a total 360. Just my opinion.
Best of luck and happy one year!
(Rating: 5) Thank you :)