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my father is emotionally, & sometimes physically abusive to me and my brother.
it doesn't help that my mother is out of town more than half of the time, and whenever she leaves, sometimes even while she's home, he gets drunk and yells at me and my brother, berates me, and will occasionally throw stuff at me.
I've tried telling him to stop, I've tried saying how I feel, and I've even gone to the police and my mother. Nothing solves it.
He puts on a normal face for the rest of the world, and since I live in a fairly small town and he's a doctor, the community passes it off as me seeking attention.
It doesn't help matters that I am bisexual, and he's a complete homophobe- he doesn't even have to get drunk to point the bad things about this out.
I really dont know what I can do. So far, I can only wait until I get the chance to move out. (& I've already planned for early graduation)
honestly, I'm not even sure what my question is here.

I know how it feels when other people's behaviors take a toll on you. My mom used to date an alcoholic. Like your father, he would put on a happy face to cover up his destructive personality. You already stated that you've told your mom, but have you actually sat SAT down with her and talked? This doesn't mean in the car, at McDonalds, or at a cousin's birthday party. Yes, this was more of a rant than a question, but everyone needs to rant once in awhile. I think that maybe talking to your brother about what's going on might help you guys come together as a team to try and muster up the courage to [try] to put an end to this. You could do what David Hasselhoff's daughter did with him. She videotaped him while he was drunk and showed it to him.

Running away from your problems won't help, you need to face them head-on.

Hold up. I just read that he THROWS stuff at you?

You will need to call Child Protective Services right this instant.

Your father has no right to treat you the way that he does. And if your mother doesn't do anything about it, what kind of a mother is she?

Do it.

NOW.

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(Rating: 5) thanks- like you said, sometimes we need to rant. I actually didnt mean to submit that as a question, but you did a good job answering it anyways. :]

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