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ok. i'd first like to thank everyone who has been answering my other quistions. I greatly apriciate it. BUt lets hope this is the final chapter. ( probably wont be) lol But ok here it goes. Since my mom new abot my boyfriend and i, I told him that I told my mom, that his bro and his bros gf had sex, ( knowing she wouldnt care) but my bf told his bro. ANd his bro is mad at me, and I know he has a right to be, cause I do get into other peoples buissness, but i'm working on it. N e ways, he got his gf ( who was my bf) mad at me. Were talking now, but i feel she has a right to be mad at me. But I mean, he's ALLWAYS butting in on mine and my bfs phone conversations. SO what do I do? Or what would you do?
You should calm down. If anything, you could explain that you told your mom just to make your own situation (you having sex, that is, not the mom freaking out part) more normal. Explain that your mom isn't going to rat them out (if she isn't planning on telling his parents). Tell him that you are sorry that you told something about his personal life to your mom. And that's all you can do. Eventually he'll get over it.
And now about what you'll do about yourself: don't blame yourself or beat yourself up. It's pretty normal to just vent random information to parents, because they aren't usually that involved in friend's social lives anyway and therefore they are a good, level-headed sounding board at times.
Have you told your parents about your decision not to have sex for a while? This may ease some of the tension. In the mean time, try not to get too upset at everyone though it seems like a lot of people are somewhat unfairly pointing their fingers at you. Listen to some calming music and just generally act nicer and more responsible around parents, siblings, ect. until this whole situation blows over.
(Rating: 5) ok thank you. this helps alot i'll try to talk to my parents this weekend, and i'll try and talk to my bfs bro today. thanks