My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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ok. my mom found out my bf and i have been having sex. Now she's giving the cnstant guilt trip. I mean, I'm sorry if I hurt her, but the ONLY reason I kept it from her to begin with is because OF this. So what do I do, HOw do I clear that acward feeling? (link)
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No Mum wants to know that their young daughter is having sex. She can only see the heartache and pain that comes with it. My eldest daughter started having sex at the same age and I have to admit to being a little upset about it. However, I did put her on the pill and we talked about the emotional side of things as well as the physical ones.
Put yourself in your Mum's shoes and think about how you feel regarding her sex life. It's one of life's little yukky moments when you realise that your parents had sex to have you.
I know it's a shame that you have had to keep it from her and I admit to doing the same with my parents. (More because of the 'shame' of having sex before marriage!! - I am of that circa). So what can you do about it?
Firstly, always make sure you are using double protection ie. pill and condom. Make sure that the guy is clean and you are not taking any risks. Once you reassure your Mum that you are protecting yourself against pregnancy and STDs etc., you then need to reassure her that you know you will most likely be hurt emotionally when your relationships fall apart. Tell her you need her to be there for you and ask her if you can confide in her if you have problems.
Tell her that you appreciate her concern and you know that things are awkward between you at the moment. Once you acknowledge that you should have told her straight and apologise for keeping her in the dark, things should start to feel normal again. Time will heal the rift. All the best.
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thank you so much because you sound like you understand the apin. I'm just so upset right now. but thank you.
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