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Ok me and my ex have been broke up since Nov 14th, I love her so much! but she is going out with another guy now who treats her like shit!! he doesnt even really love her. I want her back so much! me and my freind oliver were talking and he said "man she just told me like a week ago that she was finaly over you". the other night me and her were talking about our romantic memories i could name off 5 in great detail, but she couldnt. She has started to smoke to and I HATE smokers. And she said that its an escape. But i really just think she is doing it cause her new boyfreind is, and hes a loser. I dont know what to do, i said told her that i thought i knew what the problem was, it was that i boerd her. And she said yeah i think it was, not trying to be a bitch. She said there was something about me that she still likes, it was that i held her. I dont really like that fact that me and her did nothing but she has oral sex with her new boy freind, but her told me she isnt going to loss her virginity to him. I just dont know what to do! help me! Im really consirned about the smoking, cause they wont be together for to much longer i know that and she might get addicted. So how can i help get her back and get her off smoking?
Btw she is a stuborn 15 year old who wont listen to anything, she will if i make a really strong point without getting mad. thanks
It's pretty safe to say that she has moved on. Anything now you try to do to get her back will only make you look desperate and undesirable. She's made mistakes lately, but she'll have to figure this out on her own.
The best thing you can do now is move on. Stop talking and seeing her if you are having trouble just being her friend/acquaintance/ex. Moving on, making lots of friends, gaining new hobbies, whatever - all that will likely make you more desirable to her than if you sit around waiting for her to come back to you.
If you wanted to make a strong point, you could always try saying something like "Look, it's okay that you've moved on and have a boyfriend now that we're broken up. But I'm worried about you because you've started smoking, and I'm worried about the way he's treated you. I'm worried that even though you may not be with this guy forever, you could be addicted to cigarettes for a long time. I care about you and don't want you to get hurt." If she doesn't listen to you, move on and find someone a little less immature.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, cause this really actualy helps:) cause this opened my eyes that its her choise not mine. :) but thank you so much
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