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My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo
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Ever since my mom's divorce with her ex-husband, she has been really angry. She gets so sensitive and mad about little things that happen. I miss the mom I had when I was little who was fun and loving. Now she has a new feonce and is about to have a baby. I can barely stand her and try to lean on my friends a lot through this, but I don't want my little sibling to go through everything I did with my mom's emotional status. I know that since my mom is pregnant, she can be a little hormonal, but she did it before she was pregnant. It's just worse now. My soon-to-be stepdad and I have to sneak downstairs to watch basketball or football now. And she always feels so alone. I do my best to stay with her, and be the peacemaker through family fights, but it's never good enough. Yes, I'll admit it, I'm a screw-up teen, but I don't want to be treated like one daily. I want my old mom back, but I know I won't see her. I know my mom won't allow me to go to my dad's because of his financial stage and he lives in a city that I never want to go to school again there. If you could help at all with how I deal with things or anything that could help. I already know that I'm the one who has to change to save our relationship because she's too "proud" of a person to do so. Thank you so much.
~kelsi~
Hey girl,
Believe it or not, you're doing the right thing. Just keep doing the next right thing for your family, and keep being patient. You said you're a "screw-up" teen, I was once one of those, and my step-mom is real moody, and I had to deal with her through two pregnancies, so I know how you feel. If you absolutely can't take it any longer, spend more time with your friends, as long as you have genuine decent friends that care about you, and you have love in your life, everything will be alright. I know it hurts and you long for a better relationship with your mother, but from what I read of your side of the story, I think you're doing the right thing. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and make sure you keep doing the right thing. It's hard dealing with mothers, but imagine what they have to put up with, kids like us. If you feel so inclined, have a real heart-to-heart with mom, sit her down when she's in a halfway decent mood, and just tell her how you feel. Her maternal instincts will kick in and realize that you're unhappy, and if nothing else, she will feel bad. If she can recognize where she is wrong at, then there's even more room for change. Don't lose hope hun, you can always leave one in my inbox or email if you need anything. If you want more of my contact information, let me know. Keep in touch and stay strong. ~Love Angel
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your answer. I think you give really good advice, which is one of the reasons why I asked you. You're very understanding and honest about your answers. I think I will do what you said and I believe it will work. Thanks again!
~kelsi~