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If it's not too...big of a commotion or problem for you, could you tell me about a funeral you went to?

I'm going to my friend's grandma's funeral and it's the first one I ever went and I have no idea what's going to happen, what it's about, and not really sure what it is except that it's something that happens after someone dies.

P.S, do you HAVE to wear black? Not to be disrespectful or anything but this is just how i see it: "If I died, I'd like everyone to wear colourful clothes, to kinda celebrate that i moved to heavon in the afterlife"

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I went to three funerals in my life.
For my grandpa, grandma, and Kyle. The one that hurt a lot was my grandma's I was SO close to her, but yet so young, so I didn't grieve the right way, or understand it even completely. Kyle's was so hard too, it was last year June 16, 2007. He was in a car accident, he went to my school, we didn't talk much in highschool, more in middle school. But nonetheless, he was an amazing person, this funeral was so hard, pretty much the whole school was there, they showed pictures of him, had students his best friends talk about him, his girlfriend talked, his family, it was super hard. ..

Funerals are so hard, make sure your friend grieves, and let her know you're there for her. She needs that. At a funeral, sometimes they have open casket, or closed casket, meaning you can look at them,, and obviously.. they are no longer alive, so its sometimes really hard to deal with. Every funeral is different, its a service in memory of a person, talking about their life, their accomplishments, what they've done, what they have meant to others, its kind of saying goodbye, it all depends on the person.

You don't have to wear black, but to be respectful I would wear something appropriate. I feel its probably easier for you to go to this than your friend, because you didn't lose a loved one. Also, the way you look at life is different then some, tons of people would want to say that.. and be like woo hoo celebration, "i've gone to heaven be happy" but.. a lot of the times people are way too broken to even try to be happy. Its a huge healing process, just be respectful and be there for yoru friend.

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