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13/f.My friend can't hear herself sing.She gets bad grades and she's quite DUMB to say one thing.She has no like particular good "talent" except maybe art which she is good at but not really good..She's also kinda ugly,short, and very overweight.She really wants to be popular,skinny,pretty and all but she is lazy and in my opinion,doesn't try very hard.She likes music,and wanted to be a singer(found out a month ago and convinced her or at least I hope I convinced her)that it isn't the thing for her.I recommended a guitarist(not really) and an artist,but i don't think it'll happen.She is always teased by boys and other girls and she is always saying "I hate (whoever whoever that gossips about her) or I hate myself or I wanna die."Her personality doesn't stand out either because she is very self-conscious,sensitive,shy,quiet,unconfident,and just plain WEAK.Also,I can tell she is very jealous of me,which I HATE.She makes me mad when she acts so mean when I complain about boys chasing me,and random guys on the internet saying I'm pretty and all.I'm quite the opposite of her:friendly,cheerful,popular,slim,tall,pretty,smart,and such(well I guess sometimes I brag to her).I don't think it really matters and I try to point out the things that she is better at,which is her drawing and her tame character trait.Otherwise,she's a really good friend.She laughs easily and doesn't get mad too quick.She's patient,forgiving,and loyal.I really like her and I don't think I'm HALF as obedient as her.Can anyone give me advice on convincing her that looks and reputation aren't all??
... After reading your 'problem', you do not sound like a very mature person yourself, talking so DOWN about your 'friend'. IF you are actually her friend, you would not call her dumb, or talk about how 'over weight' you think she is. I think you need to get off your freaking pedestal and take a step back and look at what you just said. In the end of your question.. you said this "Can anyone give me advice on convincing her that looks and reputation aren't all?" YOU Need to realize that yourself first. YOU are acting very shallow, saying that shes ugly and fat and that you're skinny and popular. Looks aren't everything, and I know that. But do you? I feel so bad for your friend, you mentioned she is very self-conscious, but don't you think you are contributing to that? By down-talking your FRIEND? You are making it seem like you are a such a perfect person and yada yada yada. Well obviously you are not. And neither is your friend, everyone has flaws. And I think that you are especially flawed because you don't see the beauty of a person. Everyone is equal, everyone is beautiful IN THEIR OWN WAY. No one has to be "skinny,and popular" to be beautiful. You're in middle school, everyone is so shallow then. I'm probably making you so angry by writing this, because you don't want to her it. But I feel the need, because what you have said about her, is horrible. You don't even realize anything now, but when you're older you will understand. Beauty is NOT defined by your physical looks. Grow up.
(Rating: 5) lol Sorry,I know this is so out of the topic,but I thought you should know you spelled 'hear' wrong.Anyway,thanks for your honesty.Just to let you know,when I called her 'dumb',I didn't mean I think she is stupid,I meant she keeps fussing over her low grades and gives in no effort at all,always skipping school.Also,that quote about "Everyone is beautiful and equal in their own way" is what I repeat to her every day.0_o Just thought this was weird.Anyway,see ya.