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I read this really good piece of advice on someone else's question.

Part of it is: "The truth is, it's not the pretty girls that get the guys, but the girls that are the most approachable."

Can anyone expand on that or give examples? Thanks in advance!

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Basically I meant that it doesn't matter how amazing a person you are in this guy snagging business unless the guy can see it. You could be the best conversationalist in the history of the universe but the guy won't know this if you've never held a conversation with him. It even goes with looks. Yes, you can see them, but a guy isn't really willing to risk that vulnerable part of him to date a girl who he doesn't even know and who hasn't shown that she's interested in him. Even if he did like her, if he's getting nothing in return, he's just going to feel awkward for a little while or unsure of what to do, and chances are before anything happens he'll fall for the girl that he's gotten to know as a person, instead of as this far away, untouchable object.

Which makes sense. Because in a relationship, the attributes of the people involved don't really matter as long as they are compatible, and enjoy time with each other, which naturally comes from a girl who looks like she'll spend time with the guy in question. Most of us have had some sort of object of infatuation, but honestly, how often does anything come of that? Now picture yourself in the guy's shoes.

To get a guy, to get even a guy friend, you have to show that you are a warm, interesting person to talk to. Even if one is to go with the whole hard to get route, you'll have to drop enough hints to show the guy that "chasing" you will be worth his time. It's not that difficult. Just talk to people, be warm and friendly, treat people in a way that makes you think of someone that you personally would want to spend time with. And when you are around the guy you like, look like you are interested in him, be polite, care about what he is saying. Tease him, or be flirtatious. If you are like this, or basically if you are approachable, you will be much more noticed than if you are pretty but don't do anything about it.



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(Rating: 5) ohh!!! haha thank you so much. your advice really has helped me. its so rare because i usually do not come across anything helpful. thank you again. :) i like had an epiphany!! haha
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