idgurl572's advice column

Okay, theres this girl Cara, we used to be such best friends about 1 year ago. Then Well call her, B. B comes along, After B came along, cara and i drifted, I hate B with a passion, i know hate is a strong word, but i hate her. B started being rude to me, again [shes a backstabber, i hate her, and btw, cara and B go to diff schools, us 3 go to diff schools.] and cara and i drifted, i feel like im putting more effort in being in a friendship than she is with me. I im her, i call her to make plans [which never work out because of b] and all this stupid stuff! She never tells me anything, i used to be her secret storer and we knew EVERYTHING about eachother, i told her i got a new kitten, she was like, oh oh my goddd! no way! .. i got the cat over about 2 months ago. and she had a boyfriend, we promised to tell eachother our crushes and EVERYTHING..... 2 weeks ago im like your going out with [r]? she was like yeah, i thought i told you, i was like no, we havent talked in 1 month. but, after b went to Brazil, we started to talk more. do you think its just B or do you think were drifting? im so confused,

*** i was with my friend [c] and we were talking to her on the phone.. well i "wasnt there" and she asked if she hated me she was like no i dont why do you? and [c] said no i dont, she thinks you do because you dont talk to her or put effort into a friendship for her. and cara said well, tell her i dont. ***

what does all this mean? i mean i love her and all, but should i dump her as a friend.. or should i wait for her to talk to me....?

I would tell Cara straight up that since she has been hanging out with B, I feel like the third wheel, and really don't like that. And since B has gone on her trip you started talking to me more again but i feel like I'm the replacement until she gets back.

And see what happens from that on.

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much! that might actually work :D

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