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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
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I'm fifteen year old girl, and I really need some help.
I want to run away from home...I really do. My life...well, I don't want to tell everything...because...it's hard. BUt I think I can tell as much as I can. I have Chronic Lyme Disease, and so does my brother. My brother has had it way longer than I, and he isn't in a good place. He yells, he curses, screams at me and my parents. He even hurts me...like physical. He calls my mom names! And he treats her like s*it. He treats the whole family like this! He treats us as if we are his personal servants. My mom will be nice and get him stuff, and then my brother will yell that she doesn't do anything for him, and that all we do is yell at him and yadda yadda. I can't take it! He calls me names as well (Dumb f*ckin b*tch is one of the names) and it hurts me too much...all I hear is yelling and fighting anymore....and it hurts me, so much. And I try to help out so much here, but I can only do so much. BUt it seems like my parents want me to still help, even though my brother won't help at all. I think I'm about to go insane!I've read a mag about why girls want to run away...and I know I shouldn't, but I'm just getting to that point...where I dunno what else to do. I try to ignore my brother, and pretend that there is no fighting going on...but...a girl can only pretend so long. I do have a depression problem, but I am taking meds for that. I would talk to my friends about it...but none of them understand what is going on, because I act differently around them...because I want to pretend that I'm normal...atleast a bit normal. I want to scream...I wanna yell, but I can't. Since I have Lyme Disease, I can't do too much physical stuff because of my extreme joint and muscle pain...and more. I start hurting and aching even if I don't do anything, even if I just walk for a while. My parents will...like today, one of our dogs took off, and I'm trying to find something with her collar so that if she runs away, we press a button on it, and t shocks her, and she runs bakc. And we can't find it...I looked for a long time, and then I stopped because of my brother hurting me, and then...I just...started crying(which I can't cry much)and...then my mom called me and said that I should be helping and all that. And I yelled I was helping...and I just...I need help...please...help me. I know I can't run away because I have to take many meds to help fight the Lyme, but I'm at the point where I will run away soon...or something. And I did have a therapist, but I don't talk to her much anymore because my brother was getting better...but now?
Running away won't solve any of your problems, at all. You have to think about what you're doing before you do it before it's too late. I know it's hard being sick and having a sick sibling but you have to stick with it because he is your family. Him cursing and hurting you is not right and you have to talk to your parents about that. They have to let him know that just because he's sick that he can say and do whatever he wants. It's not right. Pretending that everything is okay won't make your problems go away. You have to face the truth and stop being so ashamed. Families go through hard times, argue and say things they don't mean but you have to understand that you will get through it and they love you and your brother very much. Bear with them and even though you help out a lot, do the best you can. Next time you think about running away, think about how much your family needs you.
(Rating: 5) ^^ Thanks for the advice...but my parents do tell him not to yell and stuff, he still does...^^; my e-mail address is veranex6@hotmail.com...may I have your e-mail so I can tell you more details?