My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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A little more than a year ago a friend was diagnosed with cancer. I decided to be optimistic and treated it like it wasn't a big deal. She would go through some unpleasant chemo and then it would be over.
We have kind of a teasing relationship so I made a point of not treating her any differently, while other friends were more sympathetic and altered plans to suit her condition.
Now I've learned that treatments didn't work and they give her about a year. I feel so bad about the way I treated her that I haven't been able to face her since. How can I make amends? (link)
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You have no need to feel bad about the way you dealt with her diagnosis at the time. Now that she has been diagnosed with terminal cancer you will find that however hard it will be, you must be by her side and taking whatever she dishes out to you. The only way forward is to talk to her and to treat her in the same cosy friendship you always have with less of the teasing if you don't feel comfortable with it. It is going to be very hard on you and you will need the support of your own family around you so that you can be strong for your friend. Be there with the tissue box when she is low, with a bar of chocolate and a DVD when she needs company and most of all just be there for her when she needs you. I wish you all the courage to get through this and when the time comes for her to leave, be proud of the friendship you two had. Take care.
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Thanks for answering. You are so right.
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