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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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i dont remeber if i posted this thing bfore, but its really starting to annoy me. i have a twin sister who i am very jealouse of. she is smarter then me, and she is prettier then me and everything she does is just better then me. even her grades and our parents are alll happy over her and my mom always ends up getting mad at me and telling me to try harder whenever i get my report card. i mean and shes skinner then me and idk what to do about it...like im totally jelouse and ive had a million breakdowns about hating the way i am. idk wat to do anymore. i can't handel being second best. i just need advice. what really gets me is that when we move to Gerogia soon, everything depends on your grades and i dont think im good enough bc shes going to do sooo much better then me. i feel like when we move im just going to be a freak with no life while my sister gets all these friends. im 15/f.
I have twin daughters and trust me, twins are not the same, even if they are identical, and should never be compared with each other. You are different people who have your own personalities and abilities. You say she is smarter than you? Maybe she is, but you will have your own talents, all you have to do is look for and develop them.
The hardest thing is stopping comparing yourself with her. It sounds as though other family members are making the same mistake, which is doing nothing for your self confidence. You need to start acknowledging that you are far from being second best, you're just as good as your sister and everyone else.
Academic ability does not make you great, it's who you are as a person that counts. There is more to life than just being clever. There's compassion, understanding, the ability to make people feel good about themselves, laughter and so many more.
Being thin and attractive also doesn't mean you're a great person, there are plenty of supermodels who can prove that point!
Try to learn to be you, not a poor reflection of your sister, because you're not. Your parents need to learn this fact as well. If you can, you will have a happier life and you will find you are making true friends who don't care about shallow things like what you look like or what your IQ is.
There are lots of people who have changed the world for the better but who would never have been considered brainy. You could be one of them, just give yourself a chance. Look on the move as a fresh start, giving you the chance to find out who you really are, and making friends that will value your individuality.
As long as you are trying your hardest at school, no one can reasonably ask for more. Carry on putting the effort in, but for your sake, no one else's. It's your life and you have to live it, remember your twin is just a sister that was born at the same time. She's not you and you're not her, you're your own person and it's time to start being you.
(Rating: 5) thanx so much for your information. it does help me...i guess i just need to get over her...or whatever. i am gald that you poseted the information cause now i can trust that you gave me good info because you have twins of your own. i just have low self confidence and i haven't been making the right choices in my life. thanx so much and you totally helpd.