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my sister
i dont remeber if i posted this thing bfore, but its really starting to annoy me. i have a twin sister who i am very jealouse of. she is smarter then me, and she is prettier then me and everything she does is just better then me. even her grades and our parents are alll happy over her and my mom always ends up getting mad at me and telling me to try harder whenever i get my report card. i mean and shes skinner then me and idk what to do about it...like im totally jelouse and ive had a million breakdowns about hating the way i am. idk wat to do anymore. i can't handel being second best. i just need advice. what really gets me is that when we move to Gerogia soon, everything depends on your grades and i dont think im good enough bc shes going to do sooo much better then me. i feel like when we move im just going to be a freak with no life while my sister gets all these friends. im 15/f.
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I have twin daughters and trust me, twins are not the same, even if they are identical, and should never be compared with each other. You are different people who have your own personalities and abilities. You say she is smarter than you? Maybe she is, but you will have your own talents, all you have to do is look for and develop them.
The hardest thing is stopping comparing yourself with her. It sounds as though other family members are making the same mistake, which is doing nothing for your self confidence. You need to start acknowledging that you are far from being second best, you're just as good as your sister and everyone else.
Academic ability does not make you great, it's who you are as a person that counts. There is more to life than just being clever. There's compassion, understanding, the ability to make people feel good about themselves, laughter and so many more.
Being thin and attractive also doesn't mean you're a great person, there are plenty of supermodels who can prove that point!
Try to learn to be you, not a poor reflection of your sister, because you're not. Your parents need to learn this fact as well. If you can, you will have a happier life and you will find you are making true friends who don't care about shallow things like what you look like or what your IQ is.
There are lots of people who have changed the world for the better but who would never have been considered brainy. You could be one of them, just give yourself a chance. Look on the move as a fresh start, giving you the chance to find out who you really are, and making friends that will value your individuality.
As long as you are trying your hardest at school, no one can reasonably ask for more. Carry on putting the effort in, but for your sake, no one else's. It's your life and you have to live it, remember your twin is just a sister that was born at the same time. She's not you and you're not her, you're your own person and it's time to start being you.
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you said she is your twin? well then she is your TWIN. she is just like you maybe she does things diffrent but she looks just like you. how does she get ready in the morning? what does she do at school? she is just like you it may be that she is just trying and standing out more what i think is that you need to talk to her and see what she does how she is the way she is and everything that is my advice
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hey well im happy that i can help thats what i am here for lol
but i think you should like really talk to her. like sit her down and have an emotional talk. i mean shes your sister and weather you doubt it or not she loves you.
talk to her tell her that you think shes better then you. copy WELL whatever she does. you MUST be missing somethhing maybe a study techique she uses? there must be something because youre both sisters and your equal. im sure youre parents love you the same they just want you to try harder so they think and tell you that because they think that if they tell you that then maybe you will make more efforton your school work.
for studying try to study a little bit every night of what you learn that day. like something that you know you wont be able to remember. and just keep doing that with the rest of the subjects you dont understand. you know what better yet! make your sister study with you. there you will see what she does.
for the prettier part i doubt that shes prettier since you know you guys are twins. haha. but yea, if you dont like the way you look get a makeover. go to the salon get a new haircut, get new makeup. and clothes! start the new school year fresh.
make sure you pay attention to evrything she does. im not saying to copy her but you know learn from her. learn from her mistakes and talk everything out. you guys might just be able to learn from eachother.
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