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how do i make clear to friend who is on the other side of the planet that i fell in love with someone else and that i am no longer interested in him? he has changed the way he acts with me ever since i told him how i felt towards him..... i got over him and now i am engaged. but he doesn't know that yet... and i don't know what kind of opportunity i should look for to tell him...

"Other side of the planet?" He lives in another town?

Regardless, if you are engaged to someone else now, then don't beat around the bush waiting for the right time, because there is NEVER a right time to break up with someone, hear bad news, and be dumped for another.

Call him and tell him you want to talk to him. Don't tell him over the phone, he deserves face to face.

Then meet him, and tell him. Be nice and apologetic, but be truthful. If you are afraid he'll take it badly and go ballistic-- take a friend with you, but away from the private conversation-- yet in eye sight watching your back.

P.S. Since you explained to me the details privately, I'll respond for you.

I understand the method of commuication with him due to distance, so "talk" that way and tell him.

I can tell you already he has someone else in his life and has you emotionally hanging on just in case needed later. He's already over to you.

There's no reason for you to waste another minute worrying and fretting over him and telling him.

Move on, enjoy your new relationship that is REAL and your upcoming wedding. Your energy and heart is better with your fiance here and now.

Be happy and put the past behind you, it's gone and over and can't be changed. Today is the here and now so enjoy it moment by moment and dream and plan the future you and your fiance can build together. Dreams are what keep us vital and happy.

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(Rating: 5) seriously he's in north america and i'm in east europe now....i don't know what to do... cause right now we barely talk and he makes it seem like i don't cross his mind or he is a busy bee or stuff like that (he thinks he needs to compete with me since i juggle my friends... and it's not that it's just that i come from a conservative family and i can't do what i want so i have to organize my time and stuff so they don't find out about the "wild" me) i hinted to him that i was to go see who my parents set me up with at the beginning but since then every time i log on msn (since thats our #1 communication method) he logs of or he act busy... i can't send him an email because i don't trust who he'll show it too and in the same time i know he won't respond....

i am confused..... he used to bring out the wilder more free side of me... now that i am back i feel restrained and more conservative... don't get me wrong i like my new fiance but i still don't know the guy yet! :S
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