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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
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I really fancy this guy (lets call him J) in the year above me and I'm not sure how he feels about me.
1 month 3 weeks ago: I went to this youth club and didn't know J would be there, but he was. When I sat down I was talking to this other guy (D) and then when I looked round as we had stopped talking me and J somehow managed to lock eyes and then we both quickly looked away. Then later, J came up to me and jokily warned me that D fancied me, I just laughed because he had made a joke like 'watch out, its dark!' but I didn't say anything back.
For the rest of the evening J sort of hung around with me and 2 of my mates, one of them who is like his best mate. He never said anything specifically to me though. When he and his best mate left I said bye to them and they both said bye back.
The next day me and my friend were on the train and so was J, when he saw us he went, 'Wow, its the girls from yesterday!' and I noticed that although he was talking to one of his girl mates, he kept looking back at me, but we never made eye contact.
A few days later: At school once he just stared at me for ages but he wasn't making eye contact so I couldn't be sure whether he was looking at me or someone behind me.
A month and a half ago: I went to the youth club again, he didn't really hang around with us for the first hour but I noticed him watching me when one of the guys got me up to do strange dancing (I felt like a total prat) and when another guy I'd never seen before came up to me, told me he loved me and then stood there hugging me for about five minutes, J smiled and made eye contact with me in a way that said 'He's crazy isn't he?' and I said, 'Riiight' (signalling that hug guy was strange) and smiled back at J. Later on we made this eye contact and it was like no one else was there and it was just me and him, like we had this secret understaning, I looked down after a while. It was weird, but good.
Day after: I saw him and it seemed that whenever someone talked to me he sort of looked at me in interest.
Couple days later: He added me on myspace. This might not seem like anything but all my friends had to add HIM first, yet he added me.
A month and a week ago: I posted a bulletin telling people there was an all-night party at my friends and saying they were invited, my friend sent the exact same message but he didn't reply to her, he replied to me saying he was coming and left loads of kisses.
Day after: This was the day of the all-night party. He turned up and when he was drunk people asked him who he thought was the hottest, and he started jumping on the trampoline (lets say im P) shouting 'P! She's the hottest! P's hot! P's hot! Where is P? Someone go and get P for me' and then one of the guys said, 'Hey, P, come over here! J wants you!' and for some reason me and my friend just sort of ran off. I dont know why. Then later we were inside and J was on the laptop looking at some girl's myspace and then he said to his friend, 'Im going out with her' and I was thinking, 'what the hell?!' as I never knew he had a girlfriend. Apparently he had only started dating her a couple days before.
Then later people were talking about who was hot again, and J said (remember hes still slightly drunk), 'P's the hot one!' and his sober girl mate was like, 'yeah..' and J said, 'But oh yeah.....I've got C' (C's his gf).
When he was drunk J remembered my name but also seemed to like calling me 'the hot one'.
When we were inside and sober, he was sitting inside where I was (lots of people were sitting outside) and I would make comments and he would reply and when everyone was asking each other what their surnames were I said mine and J said, '[my surname], thats so..........sexy'.
Then later I was sitting next to him and he asked everyone a question but no one answered him so he turned to me and asked me the question.
And i noticed him watching me sort of intently when this other guy was pratically lying on me and flirting with me.
The next day: hes posted a survey where he mentions that hes in love with his girlfriend C.
Couple days later: me and 2 of my friends saw him and his mates in town, and they just folowed us about shouting, 'Cos we're not following you' and when they left J smiled at me and made eye contact.
2 weeks ago: at youth club my mates left me alone with him and outside and he just stood there looking at me for ages. And I was looking at him. It was weird.
Ok, I don't seem to remember much after that.
But we're friends with him now, and he always shouts 'Hello!' and smiles when he sees me, and whenever we go talk to our mate whos one of his best mates too, as soon as J realises we're talking to his mate, he'll stop what he's doing ang go and stand next to his mate, sort of posing.
Today, I saw him and waved, like usual, but he just gave me this really forced half-smile, shifted his eyes about awkwardly, before looking worried and quickly walking away with his friend. It was really confusing cos hes never done that before. That was at break, then at lunch, we saw him with 2 of his mates - they were walking a totally different direction from us, but J dragged them in the direction me and my friends, smiled, walked through me and my best friend and said 'Sorry i just felt like being awkward' before going off. Also, a lot of the time, he seems to come and stand near us.
On myspace he says that hes in love with his girlfriend so much. It makes me realy upset.
What do you think he thinks of me? Does he like me, but not as much as his girlfriend? Or just think of me as a mate?
Sorry it was so long, xxx
J seems like he's really confused or maybe that's the way he comes of. Even though he has a girl friend, he seems to be attracted to you and likes when you give him attention. I do think that both of you have a crush on each other. Just keep talking and hanging out so that way he'll get to know you better and you'll get to know him better.
(Rating: 5) Thanks! I was surprised anyone answered it, it was so long! So thanks a lot, xxx