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Okay... this is going to be long but I REALLY need help. So thanks to anyone who takes this seriously and actually reads it and TRIES to help me.
So there's this boy.
He is SO cute.
He has brown hair, bright blue eyes, muscles... just, the whole enchilada.
Anndd... I have liked him for SOO long.
Since the beginning of this year.
And like, he used to like me but whatever.
Andd... on Valentines day of THIS year, it was 6th period on a Wednesday and I asked the teacher if I could go to the bathroom and so I went and his class is right next to mine. So as I walking back to class, I see AJ [the guy] walking towards me and my heart skips a beat. He is just, TOO cute. And we stopped by the lockers and we were talking or whatever. And he KISSED me. And pretty soon, we were making out and everything was SO great.
He was my first kiss.
I loved it.
And that night, I snuck out for him and got my ass caught and yeahh. Anywaysss...
he told me be liked me and everything. And we were talking about going out.
Well then, there comes BARBIE. She's a wannabe barbie, anyways. Well yeah, she was new to the school and AJ helped her out and now they're going out. wtf. I don't get how he could possibly do that: like me one second and then have a girlfriend the next. Fucking stupid. So anyways, I started liking this kid, Charles. And he liked me a lot and now, he won't talk to me at all for NO reason. And I was all depressed and vulnerable Saturday night [last Saturday night] and AJ started IMing me. [he was sober]
And we were joking around about blowjobs. Like, here's pretty much how the converation went.
AJ: SUCK IT.
ME: haha nahh. I don't feel like it.
AJ: haha well not now nigga.
ME: haha okay.
AJ: maybe tuesday?
ME: i dont know. I may be booked. haha
AJ: mann thats fucked up. haha
ME: haha im kidding.

like, we were joking and stuff and flirting ALOT. And him and his girlfriend were fighting. And he told me that I was prettier and that I would be a better girlfriend. And that she was an ugly whore. And everything. It was like, woah. I couldn't believe it.
So then, that night, he got fucked up on everclear, bars, coke&jack, and bud light. So yeah... I'm surprised he didn't die... seriously.
Anyways,
he was telling me I was beautiful and making me feel really good. And he started asking me to send him pictures of my boobs and I didn't wanna do it. And I didn't but like, I didn't know what to tell him! I was scaredd. 'Cause he's the only guy I;ve ever actually done something sexual with. And then he started asking me to have phone sex and I would finger myself and he would jack off. :/
I thought it was really weird.
'Cause like, I've never fingered myself as weird as they may seem but whatever.
I didn't want to.
And I didn't.
And I told him I liked him and I wanted to do everything to make him happy but I can do that in other ways. And fucking isn't one of them. I could be there for him and make him feel good about himself and just... be a great girlfriend. He's the ONLY guy I wanna be with. Seriously. I can't picture myself with anyone else.
Only him.
I've pictured us together SO many times.
I just want it to happen so bad.
And it never has.
And now, he's completely ignoring me.
And I have no idea why.
And I dont want him mad at me. I wanna at least be friends if not more. But I don't even think he wants to be that.
I mean, he's a major PIMP. He gets ALOT of girls and like, most of them are more than willing to give it up to him. But I'm not. And I think that's part of the reason he's not talking to me.
And I know he's an asshole.
And I've heard a million times how stupid I am for falling for a guy like that. So you don't have to tell me...

I just wish he wasn't like that. Like, I want us to work SO bad. I want to be with him.
He just... i dont know. There's something about him.
I don't know what it is. But anyways, yeah.
I don't know what to do.
I'm not asking for actual advice because seriously, what can you do? I just need some reassuring thoughts. Something to take my mind off everything. SOMETHING. I'll give you credit for even TRYING to help.
Shit, I'll give you credit just for READING it.
haha
I just need SOMETHING.
Thanks guys.
Love yall.
:]

I don;t know why you would want guys to answer this. Honestly, just because you've liked him so long, doesnt mean anything. People have crushes on celebritys too, but that doesnt mean if they ever get the chance to go out, that everythign will be perfect. What you imagine in your mind, and what is reality is completely different. I honestly mean that, think about it. In your mind, you two would be perfect, you would hang out, and do fun stuff, but thats just stuff you could do with anyone. There is more to a relationship than physical things. It sounds to me like he wants that. And you are going to get yourself into a dangerous situation if you keep trying to persue him.

As you said yourself he's a pimp, why would you want to be with someone like that?


"Guys pretend to love to have sex, girls have sex to pretend to have love"

I dont know if you've ever heard that before,
but its true.
Girls want love, most girls are way more mature than guys.

So be careful,
and also, be mindful,
if this guy you like already had a girlfriend,
dont interfer with the relationship,
you wouldnt want someone doing that to you your relationship would you?
And if he called his girlfriend all those names, what makes you think he woudlnt turn his back towards you and do that to you?
Since obviously he already did, but leading you on and kissing you, then dating another girl.
You know?

I hope I'm not making you angry,
actually it doesnt matter if I am.
Becuase I am giving my opinion on this situation.

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(Rating: 5) Nah.
You weren't making me nescacarily ANGRY.
I mean, some of the things you said were harsh but veryy true, which is why I rated you so high.
As I said before in the question, I don't know WHY I like him. So I don't really understand why you asked that.
And what I meant by "Guys answer this" is that maybe a guy could tell me WHY they do that or something.
Idk.
I like the fact that you told me straight up to get over it.
But I don't like the fact that you questioned everything I said.
I mean, I question it myself.
But still...
It doesn't help anything.
It doesn't make me THINK.
And it doesn't make me care about what you think.
And I love that saying by the way.
It's very true.
But I was never planning on having sex with the guy.
I didn't even wanna mess around with him.
I knew I would get hurt.
And that was stupid on my part.
But I'm smarter than you think.
Trust me.
Thanks Again.
I appreciate it.
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