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i liked this guy for a long time and now i kinda over him. my friend likes him now and im all defensive. i cant talk to her cause i have a boyfriend. but idk if i like my boyfriend, but i just started going out w/ him today so i cant break up with him yet.. i went out with him cause we're friends and hes nice and hes like in love with me. i just dont feel the chemistry. this is my first boyfriend. im a wreck. i cant eat, think straight, etc.



xclueless

Your question description is confusing.

You liked this guy for a long time but "kinda over him" and your girlfriend is going out with him so you are "defensive" meaning "jealous?"

But you starting dating another guy today, that really likes you but you don't feel any chemistry with him.

So WHO is your first boyfriend? The one you used to really like that your friend is seeing or this new one that you don't have any chemistry for?

So WHAT exactly is your question?

What to do about her dating your ex-boyfriend that you really like?

If so, you have no claim to him, he is an ex-boyfriend. But-- talk to your friend and tell her how you're feeling about it-- that you still like him and are jealous but don't want to be.

Maybe, if she's a really good friend, she'll stop seeing him to spare your feelings. But she'll never know to make that choice if you don't tell her.

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(Rating: 3) my friend likes a guy that i just got over. i liked that guy for a long time. none of us dated him or anything. i feel like i sorta claimed him. i know that theres no such thing as claiming a guy if you never went out, but i feel like i "made my mark". i would talk to my friend about how i feel about this, but i just got a boyfriend yesterday((my first)). he was my friend, who apparently liked me. i dont think i like my boyfriend as more than a friend. he loves me. i feel like i would be really mean to dump him after two days.

so i have two problems, mixed into one big mess.
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