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this weekend brought a really big shock for me. i found out that a couple of my friends that i think very highly of have gone as far as 3rd base (theyre 14-15) and then my best friend ever whom i look up to has tried pot (didnt like it) and got drunk at a party (shes 18)

now i'm not trying to force them to stop doing these things, its their life and their body, but it deeply disturbs and saddens me. i understand that this is very common behavior in high school (i'm homeschooled) but like the most smartest people i know have done that.

how do i deal with this? i just really have a hard time imagining them doing these things, its almost like its their alter egos. idk.

oh ya ps they arent lying about it... trust me on this.

any feedback would be mucho appreciated. if it helps the furthest i've gone was making out

It IS their alter egos. It's called "peer pressure" and regardless of 13 or 18, teenagers want to "fit in."

Your friend tried pot, due to the peer pressure and curiosity, but didn't like it-- so hopefully will refuse it on next offer instead of smoking due to the "peer pressure."

And the getting drunk is the same as I just mentioned.

For you to be able to deal with this, you will have to speak up and speak your mind just exactly as you did here in your question.

Tell your friend(s) that although you know that it's none of your business what they personally do and that it's their bodies and lives, it disturbs you just the same. You are concerned about them because you care, and drugs and alcohol are dangerous and addictive, let alone fatal when mixed. Pot and alcohol both will lower a person's inhibitions and cause them to act and do things that they normally wouldn't straight.

Once you've said your mind, you'll have peace of mind and of heart.

You've done your job as a friend, just like a friend that won't let another friend drive drunk.

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much!!! i'm a bit nervous about talking to them about it, i believe a good friend doesnt judge, and i dont want them to be scared away from telling me what they do because if they dont tell me, i wont be in on a big part of their lives. but ya thanks again, yours was the best answer
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