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I'm a teenage girl and I'm always alone- i'm not kidding. I'm homeschooled so that's why.(and i'm the only dependent minor in my family) I used to go to a prep school where I was around annoying people 24/7, and i hated that. But this makes me depressed too. Never being around anyone. my problem is this:

Whenever I get tired of being completely alone and I go out in public for a rehearsal or something (i do theater), I can't stand being around unintelligent sluts who don't understand me and just ask me why i look so sad and things like that. I get panic attacks whenever I try to talk to someone (unless it's one of my 2 best friends in the whole world) and i start sweating and I turn red and my heart starts pounding. and it gets too awkward and i have to make an escape.

I'm very well-spoken and i couldn't call myself "shy" but i still feel reclusive because i just don't really get along with other people. I've thought it was because of my intelligence being significantly above average. (been professionally tested) So I "notice things that no one notices" which makes me "unusual". (that was something stated word for word in my testing document thing)

It's like everyone else is a bunch of cows in a heard that looks exactly the same and does the same thing, and I'm a completely different species, who doesn't see the need to be in that heard. (if that makes sense)

I also battle depression- and I always have. It's not from any particular event- it's just always sort of been there. and i can't change it.

What is wrong with me?

This is becoming an anti-social behavior learned from being separated from other people.

The longer unsocialized, the worse it becomes.

You actually loose your ability to interact with people and feel estranged. Do you feel like the only real person in a world of cartoon people, or a cartoon in a world of real people?

You're developing the fear to leave the comfort and safety of your own home and interact with others due to home schooling and prior to that private school that you hated.

Why aren't you in public school with others, making friends, and socializing?

You are obviously intelligent and have a brain in a brainless world, but there are others like you. You have to seek them out.

Go for short walks. Hangout at the mall for short periods. Time yourself. Go to the library where intelligent people your age are. Go to high school games even if alone, and make a friend or two.

Join teen organizations and give it a try. Nothing is permanent and not in stone, so you have a way out.

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