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I really hate my life but my friends hold me back not my family because well my family sucks. My friends love me more then my family. I haven't cut because im not some worthless piece of crap.But i have had millions of thoughts about death or killing myself. Im wondering will they even care if im gone? My parents barely reconize me now so whats the point? I told my love one these suicidal thoughts and he yelled at me making me more depressed. I cried for 4 hours straight and I even told him. He likes me alot and he said he would jump infront of a bullet for me. I was recently in the hospital my best friend since 2nd grade (14/f now) died in my arms im now emotionally unstable. Anywho my love one yelled at me and said he needs a week off. Its been more then a week and i sent 2 apology letters he has yet to right me back. I haven't smiled ever since the accident which was April 2nd 2007. I have no emotions but sadness. My sister is majo worried about me and i can't handle it. What should i do to help myself smile? And how will i get my love one to talk to me!? Thank you.

You said you are a 14 year old. Have you had these suicial thoughts before? Periodically? Or is this the first time?

That could be s sign of chroic depression if you've had them before.

If this is your first time of sucidal thougthts, then I'd have to ask what has changed in your life recently to have brought this on? A bad break up? A loss in the family? A break up of family? Some trigger point has happened to you.

Call 1800-SUICIDE-HOTLINE it's anonymouse and trained professionals will talk to you about anything you want open and freely and not know your real name.

It helps. Promise-- it helps.

Have you been on a new medicine recently? Stopped taking a medcine recently?

Of couse your parents will care and grief when and if you're gone. All your friends will too.

I had a 15 year old step-son comitt suicide, and what we all live with daily is what could be have done to prevent it? Why didn't we see the signs? If only....

Nothing you would want your friends and family to suffer the rest of their lives, I promise you.

Sound like your boyfriend can't deal with this maganitude of a burden and is running away instead of trying to help which is typical of this age. Forget about him and concentrate on your good friends. Talk to them again. Lay it all out to them. Sooner of later if will reveil itself-- the underlying problem of these thoughts.

What is is you hate about your life so badly that you want to die? School? Looks? Grades? Your furture?

You have a bad case of depression that is the first cause. You xould be a manic depressive.

Go to your local MHMR clinic for free. Talk to counselors there. There are medcines with theapy that can help you get through this. Everyone goes through bouts of depression in their lifetimes, and we all gtet over it, with help.

Do not throw your life away by giving up and ciopping out like that.

1) Call 1-800-SUICIDE-HOTLINE (AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED TO CALL)

2)Walk into your local MHMR center NOW.

3) Talk with your good, close friends and ask them for heo.

4) Talk to a school counseslor immediately

5) Cry all you want-- it realses emtions (you will by talking to the above people)

6) The only reason your parently barely reconize you now is because you are a teenager and not communicating with them so they don't know who you are nowadays-- talk to them honestly. The will probably pay for a goof theapist for you which will help. That thid party person is nuetral and non-judgemental to your thoughts and feelings.

Do it and do it now sweetie. It's a start. And remember, your parents do love you. Your friends do love you. And remeber to love youself.

Write on paper what you do like about your life and yurself, and the things you do not.

The answer might be on those pages.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you my friend died in my arms a couple days ago and i got hit by a car and hes not my bf yet but we love eachother too dearly and he seems to like yelling at me since i said that i haven't spoken to him in awhile.. If you have a myspace idk if you do but you can add me http://www.myspace.com/im_dying_of_atelophobia
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