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Okay sorry this is so long....

ight....my name is sarah,im white and im 15...i date this boy named brandon,hes black and hes 17 and i just turned 15 in march and hes about to turn 18 in may...well we been dateing since march 24th-2007 and when we were on the phone he said babe are you ready to fuck me and i told him no because im still a virgin and we only been goin out for 2 weeks.He said i better set a date or its over.So i told him ill be ready friday.Well we just started talking and he was like babe i got somethin to tell you but i wanna say it to your face but I LOVE YOU!!so i said i love you too.WEll he always tells me well be together forever no matter what.Well all my friends tell me were rushing but i never felt this way about a guy befor in my life.I just dont no what to do because my plan was to brake up with him thursday because im not ready to fuck him yet.Hes everything i ever wanted in a guy.The only thing is he wont wait until im ready.and everytime he says i love you and he blows kisses in the phone and always calls me baby...well when ever i hear his say that stuff to me its like i cry all over again and i just dont no what to do with him...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You sound really unsure about it. And you've only been dating for two weeks. My advice would be not to do it & don't even put yourself in the situation by telling him you'll do it. I'm sorry, but two weeks is not enough time to tell if someone genuinely loves you and cares about you. And him saying "set a date or its over" is a HUGE heads up. So, he'll break up with you if you don't sleep with him? It doesn't sound like he really loves you at all and is perhaps just using you. No girl wants that to happen to them, but it still happens. I'd go with your original plan: break up with him. Get out of this before its too late and you wind up doing something you'll regret. There are plenty of guys out there, ones that won't make you sleep with them 2-3 weeks into the relationship. Ones that will respect that you're still a virgin. Ones that will love you no matter what. Seriously, trust me. I wouldn't do it now & I wouldn't say YES to doing it now.
Good luck with everything.
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