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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
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this could go under a number of catagories... im sorry.
my life is like a freakin train wreck. its one thing after another. family problems, friendship problems, relationship problems... (my ex bf moved 2000 miles away 3 years ago and we are still in love) we broke up cause he moved... im stressing out about school.
i feel like i cant trust anyone, because as soon as i do, they end up walking away from me saying that they cant handle it.
i used to cut. was clean for 7 months then recently started again. i hate my life and at times i want to end it. im more stressed at home than i am at school.
my friend told me to take things one at a time and work on making them better... but im not sure where to start. i cant really talk to my family. they dont understand me. im having problems with my best friend. i need someone to talk to who will understand who i can go to at anyhour and will comfort me. but i have trust issues. my life is fucked up. and i want it to be better. but i dont think i can make it better... what should i do? please dont tell me to call hotlines, or talk to a therapist or my parents. cause that will make everything worse. what things can i do personally to improve my life? if you need more info let me know.
Every teenager goes through a period like this, and honestly.. it get's better. You can't just give up because some things go wrong. Life is hard and you're going to expirience different emotions and things but you have to learn how to take it in and deal with it. Trust is a big issue for people and as well as with me. It's okay not to trust everyone but you can't always hold back from people. Cutting won't help you with your problems and I'm sure you learned that. Your friend is giving you good advice so just take things day by day. Don't think that your family doesn't understand. Have you ever even tried to talk to your parents about it? They love you no matter what and they are the only people that you should trust. You can deffenetly make your life better but that's only if you let it happen. I'm going to tell you exactly what you don't want to hear. Get help. Understand that I'm not saying that to be harsh or mean, but seriously if you really want to change your life around and be happy, you should go see a therapist. It doesn't make you seen crazy or fucked up, but there really isn't anything else you can do. You need to do this for yourself and you'll feel so much better. They're not going to judge you chances are, they went through exactly what you are. I can't really help you with anything else. Why is your life so messed up? Can you change it? What's so wrong that you want to just give up? Why can't you accept the fact that you need to talk to someone? Ask yourself questions and just think about what you want to do. Talking to someone won't make things worse and how would you know if you haven't even tryed it. You have to give things a chance for them to work out. Good luck with everything and if you need more help, just let me know.
(Rating: 5) i cant really say why my life is so messed up. maybe its because my brother started acting out a few years ago and i just picked up on it too. I have tried to talk to my parents about things, but they just dont try to understand. my dad works 2 jobs plus overtime and mom works 3 jobs. they dont really have time for me. i cant go talk to counselors at school because my mom works at school and they will tell her that i came to talk to them and she'll question me about it. i feel like im stuck. email me? smichele427