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I am divorced. We have 3 kids together ages 10,9,7... my son is the 7 year old. He comes home upset from visiting his father every time.He has been living with this boy who is 6 for a year, His mother has 5 kids by 4 different fathers and 2 are serving life in prison. one is (the boys) father. He is going to marry the boys mom in july and adopt him. This would be fine if he was a fit father but he is not.She is also a convicted felon.who only has custody of 1 of her 5 children. I am a suburban mom who makes a pretty good living, and gives my kids a good life, by the way he has also been convicted of domestic violence on our daughter. Should I keep my kids out of their home?? Its becomeing ever so bizarre.My son comes home cryin g because this new kid call his dad daddy, he feels like he has been replaced. His girlfriend told my son something about a month ago that set me off, they were spending the weekend with dad and girlfriend and my son asked when he was gonna see mommy and the crazy girl told him "mommy is dead i killed her", my girls said this was said..she has threatened to kill me through relatives, she is not all there. What do I do?By the way my ex and this woman were having affairs throughout our ten year marriage. This is not a stable environment for my kids, I am in a great relationship now and I might want to fight for sole custody and move away..Any advice?? (link)
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What a horrible position you find yourself in. I can only advise you that in your position I would certainly go for full custody because your children need you to protect them. They are your first priority and if they are being subjected to this kind of mental torture it will affect them. As for physical violence against a child - well I can't print what I think but you have to do everything to protect your daughter. As suggested in the previous answer, I totally agree with moving house and getting a restraining order out against your ex and his girlfriend. Your children need you and any threats against your life should be taken very seriously. Keep a diary of events and report everything to the police so that they can keep a track of any escalating violence. Your children will ask questions and your answers need to be child-friendly - ie: Mummy and Daddy don't love each other any more and we have to move away from Daddy for business/love whatever reason you can think of. Children are quite happy with half answers until they are older and once they reach a level of understanding will fully support why you wouldn't let them have contact. As for being in a new relationship, what child doesn't like to see their mum happy. If your new partner can bring up your children in a safe, loving environment then go for it. I wish you all the very best and hope that everything works out ok for you.
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Thanks elcee,I have bought a house and am moving into it next month, I dont think i will advise him of the new address and give my children more stability. We have been apart for 4 years so my children are ok with our breakup..My new boyfriend is very much in love with my kids and we are as clean as they come, not even a traffic ticket.We will live on and spare them from any further heartache. THanks
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