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Here goes:
I’m 14/f and my best friend is 14/m and gay. We’ve been friends for over a year which is the longest time my bff [let’s call him Chris] has kept anyone as a best friend. But anywhos, I have this very frivolous and talkative personality when I’m around people but that’s a problem…Chris doesn’t want to talk about serious things with me. He goes to 2 other people and that kind of hurts me. But then I can’t blame him but I still want to be the person he turns to when he has a problem and not just a person he sees as all talkative and clumsy. Is there any way I can maybe steer him to talk to me about serious things without actually sitting down and talking to him about it? Thanks =]
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The thing is, don't change those definitive traits of yours - which is chatty and outspoken. Just try to be more of an active listener instead of an active talker. It'll be good to have a mix of both traits.
When he starts to mention about serious things, listen attentively and genuinely. When you sense that he's starting to talk bout his problems, stay on topic and make him the subject of the conversation. You'll gradually lead him into telling you more bout his problems. Everyone likes to talk bout themselves at (maybe all) times.
Btw, I really don't see how him being gay helps in the question. Haha
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Rating: 5
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Hehe, I didn't want people thinking I like him or anything (new kids that come to our school think we're dating sometimes. So it's in my nature to mention he's gay lol)
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