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I've had a question like this before but I have more questions though. I am a christian so is my mom but my dad dosn't believe in God. I want to go to a christian college when I get older and he dosn't want me to because he thinks I'm gonna be a pastors wife and my husband would hate him because he drinks and all thats stuff because its a sin. I can't believe he would think that they would hate him because of that.
#2 I have been trying real hard to do my work and stuff like that but my dad just keeps putting me and down and not supporting me on what my choices are for my life. He is focusing on what I'm doing wrong and not what I'm actually trying to do.
He is putting me down on my work and my religion. And it feels as though my mom is the only one there who understands my life. I've tried talking to him it dosn't help at all he is very strict. I remember when he was so fun and there were no problems at all between us. Please help! (link)
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This is only my personal opinion, but it sounds as though your Dad is frightened of something. The way you describe his attitude sounds like he is trying to make life as awkward as possible for you in order that whatever is making his life miserable, will stay hidden. I can only suggest that you continue to study and strive for your own goals and just turn to your Mum for support.
If he was once a fun person, something must have happened to turn him into a sad man. Maybe his drinking has got out of control and he can see no way out of it.
These are not your problems and, although you may feel the need to, you cannot help him at the moment. You need to concentrate on getting your life in order. If he continues to put you down and focusing on what you are doing wrong, as a Christian you need to turn the other cheek. Continue being a good daughter to him, be pleasant and happy and maybe he will eventually see that the path you have chosen is a good one.
I hope that I have been able to help a little. I wish you all the very best.
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