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Q: okay. i'll apologize that this may be long..

i have a wonderful boyfriend. we've been together 10 months. for being freshman, we're doing pretty good. we've only gone as far as fingering/handjob, & hes not a pushy guy at all. the only thing is that he gets really jealous. and i "flirt" a lot. especially with one boy in particular named john. well, john and me are good friends. and john likes me but i've made it clear that i love my boyfriend, and he understands but still says he likes me.

now my boyfriend recently said that it seems like i enjoy talking to john more than i like talking to him & thats not true at all but my boyfriend is convinced that i like john. and i dont ! i just can't get him to believe me

i love my boyfriend. and you may think that im just saying love, but trust me. i mean it more than you guys know. he is amazing. but we always seem to end up fighting over john. it'd just be better if he didn't exist at all. but since that's not going to happen, i need some advice on what to do.
* to get my boyfriend to believe that i dont like john
* to stop "flirting" with guys
* to become a better girlfriend, because right now, i just feel like crap.


please&thanks!
You have a trust issue in your relationship. :(

What I would say to do is to tell him that you are eligable to having friends, and if he can not accept that then you shouldn't be together. Please though, do not get me wrong! I'm not saying to break up at all, but at least tell him that you should be able to have friends with it not causes issues between your relationship.

Maybe what you can do is talk to your friend John about it and ask him to not flirt so much, and you do the same.

Also, try not talking to John in front of your boyfriend. :)

thankya!

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soendearing
The names Ashley. (:
I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
I haven't been on this site in years, maybe I'll pick it up again. (:
I'm a die-hard Philadelphia Flyers/hockey fan.
I play ice hockey, I'm a goaltender.

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