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Hiya, my names Claire. I'm 16 and I live in England. I live with my dad, my older brother and my younger sister. I have a pretty complicated family situation, so although yours may not be the same, I can probably replate to something of the confusion and hurt people with broken families feel.I'm a Christian, and I guess that is reflected in most of my responses to questions. Compared to some people, I've had a pretty good 16 years of life so far, not huge amounts to complain about. But there have been times when I've really needed to rely on God to pull me through and he's never EVER failed me. I trust his promises completely, and I depend on Christ with all my heart
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ok so im a little young i guess to know wat i am. But i do i think, eneyways i think im well bi and theres this girl shes my best friend and i love and i dont mean that in a friendly way i mean it in a serious way so i dont know if im bi or if i only have a girl crush err love. But thetres this other girl shes bi shes one grade higher than me and i think she likes me i know for a fact well i think my best friend who im in love with is straight but i dont know. So enyways the girl in the higher grade shes hott and i think i may like her ugh this is so confusing for me i hate it so what should i do? err what am? i mean i reaally love my best friend shes hott,beautiful,funny,and smar shes my everything but alex i kinda like shes different and shes pretty and umm hott err what ever so could some one please please help me out here!!!
Ok, well for a start you say you're a little young. And you recognise that at your age its hard to guess what orientation you are. So don't put any labels on yourself yet! You may be bi, you may be straight, you'll have to wait and see, but in the mean time, don't pressure yourself to feel a certain way about anything by labelling yourself. Just accept the current situation and think about dealing with that, rather than whether or not you're bi.
As for the situation with your friend, well especially if you are young, you could well freak her out by letting her know ow you feel. However, if you are really close friends and you feel like you could talk to her about this sort of thing, then try this:
Don't tell her specifically how you feel about her at first, just have a general chat about liking guys, liking girls, see if she has any strong views on the subject. If, for instance, she said that she thinks its really weird to be bi, and that she's defiantely straight, then well, don't tell her that you're in love with her!
If she seems quite open about it, and you feel its appropriate, maybe you could you Alex as an example? Say that you think she likes you or something... yeah just try and chat to your friend about it. From that conversation, you can probably work out whether she is defaintely straight, or a bit flexible...
She's your best friend. Don't push anything. There's no way you want to lose a friendship over what could be a passing crush. If anything's going to develop, it will, but in time. There's no rush. Don't scare her off, just enjoy being her best friend.
As for the other girl, I think you said she was called Alex, well thats up to you really.
If you want anything to happen with her, get to know her properly, just as you would in any relationship, and take things slow. But don't take your chances with her just because she's a girl and its exciting that a girl likes you!
Good luck! xxx
(Rating: 5) omg thank you that really did help me!!!