My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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i have a friend who's dad recently died. (the boy is 14) he was really close to his dad. his dad passed a few days before christmas and this night of his funeral was his 50th birthday. the boy's mother isn't really protective. this boy used to be in a gang...and had been involved with bad stuff. he is still in a gang...but wants out. he has one brother who is in it too...he's 19, and he is nothing but a bad influence. the boy knows i am worried, but he can't get out. i feel like now that his dad has passed that he is going to look up to his brother the kinda replace his dad. I am really worried. This has been bothering me so much. i wish i could have taken his dad's place, because i feel like nows the time he needs a dad in his life. does anyone have any advice. because i love this boy (i don't like love him as in bf or anything) it's just that i love him in a way that i would be willing to do anything to help him..and i would be heart broken if anything happened to him because he has been through so much. i love dis boy in a way that i would do anything to make him happy...even if that wouldn't include me. does anyone have any advice? any would be appreciated...srry it's long. (link)
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I am so sorry to hear that your friend is in a really bad place at the moment. If he is open to suggestions perhaps you could offer up the idea of getting a mentor (perhaps from school or social services). Someone that can help him to slowly get out of the gang without causing too many problems for him. At 14 he is still young enough to turn his life around and be someone his father could have been proud of. He may not know or, even admit to it, but he needs a friend like you and the best thing would just to be there for him. Listen to him when he needs to talk, offer him silence when he needs companionship and someone to tell him he is a good person when he is feeling down.
It won't be easy for either of you and you must not try to take on too much. If I can help any more please let me know. Take care.
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