My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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To start 17/m,
I have a SERIOUS problem that is going to destroy me if I don't do something quick. For those of you that are familiar with the wheel of fortune e.i. "What goes around comes around" my entire life is on the verge of falling apart. I have just realized that I'm slowly turning into the monster I always said I would never become. Nothing but sarcasm spews from my mouth, I say horribly mean things to all my friends and loved ones. I told myself last year "I'm never gonna be like my brother because I'm shy, overweight and ugly." My brother would also tease me about that. Now its the opposite. I don't know what to do. I have this feeling that my entire life is going to circle the drain here very soon. So any advice can and will help, thank you. (link)
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I think you have suddenly realised just how angry you are about being "shy, overweight and ugly" and are now hitting out. It is not necessarily a bad thing to realise that you don't have to take it anymore, but it is how you are dealing with it that is the problem.
As a suggestion, write down everything you like about yourself - ie. beautiful eyes, loyalty to others, a good brain etc. and believe the things you have written.
Take time to count to ten before you reply to what is said to you or recite a little mantra/poem before opening your mouth which will give you some thinking time.
Try taking up a martial arts like judo or Tae Kwon Do to deal with your pent-up anger. Even going for a run will help dispel those feelings of anger before they overpower you.
As for the sarcasm, if you say something that you know is bad, acknowledge it by saying you just heard what you said and it came out wrong/badly and apologise. It will take a little time to turn this around but you will succeed because you want to. Have faith in yourself and believe that you are a good person.
Take care and have a lovely Christmas.
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