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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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i have a problem with my cat. she will use her box but only when im at home or when im in my room where her box is at. any other time she will pee on everything and anything. i dont know how to get her to stop peeing on everything. should i buy another litter box to put downstairs? i need some help!!
Cats generally feel very vulnerable when they have to toilet as they are unable to defend themselves at this point should they need to. She will feel more secure when you are in the house and so is more likely to use the litter tray. When you are out, she may feel nervous. When this happens a cat's natural reaction is to mark her territory so that there is a familiar, reassuring smell wherever she goes in the house.
Trying to reprimand her will not work unless you actually catch her in the act, as she will not associate your behaviour and angry voice with something she may have done some time ago, even if you try to show her what she has done! You are more likely to make her more nervous and scared of you as well.
Shutting her in a small room whilst you are out is one option, ensuring she has everything she needs there. Don't put food near the litter box, she won't like that, but if there are any areas where she has been a persistant offender, you could put a plate of dry food there. If she associates that place with food, she may be less likely to soil.
There are also things on the market that could help. Vets sell a plug in pheramone that is supposed to make cats feel more relaxed, there are also deterrant sprays you can buy.
Hope that helps and good luck.
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(Rating: 5) you helps so much. but i ahve another consern. i also have a dog that eats her food and drinks her water so i, most of the tiem, keep her in my room. could her beinging near her stuff have anything to do with her peeing where my dog wonders?