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This is mostly for the ladies, or the gays pertaining to his or her boyfriend. If you and your boyfriend were messing around and he got hard but couldn't hold an erection for very long or had an orgasm, does it turn you off or make you think less of him to a point where you no longer want to have a relationship with him? (he says that it's not you but just because he's nervous). This is simply just messing around like playing naked no intercourse or anything.
The point is, is that I get really nervous around the guy i'm dating, we're not official but we've been going out for more than a month now. We have been messing around and I can't seem to hold an erection for very long. I believe it is because I am nervous and have performance anxiety... during the time that we've been dating, I have messed around with other guys that were not looking for relationships and have found that I can hold my erection for quite sometime... I'm really confused because I don't know whether or not it's just there's no physical attraction between us or just because i'm nervous... neither of us have really had a steady relationship or just a steady dating partner... I really don't know what to do and I think it's bothering him more than me... Any advice??
As a female who's never actually had a boyfriend, I suppose I can't know for sure how I would feel.
But with an explanation, I'd be fine with it. Probably even without. It will come with time (oh dear, no pun intended), just try to relax and enjoy.
Your boyfriend is male too, so I imagine he probably understands the position you're in even better than I could, or than any female could, as far as that goes.
Maybe the fact that you were messing around with the other guys offered you a certain level of detachment? You're dating this guy, so chances are that you like him a lot, and maybe that in itself makes you more nervous.
Good luck. Give it time, and try not to worry about it too much.
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