DefinedEyes's advice column

I'm 14/f and I know that I should probably forget about it until later or something but this has been lingering on my mind for a while and it's bothering me.

Well, first I believed in staying a virgin till marriage thing and I still do but it's that when I think about that, that would mean having had sex with only one partner and that bothers me, you know? I wanna experiment with other people than just one person. I don't know. Right now all I can think about when I see a guy that I like is: hmmm, I wanna have sex with him. And I haven't even had my first kiss yet. >.<

Haha, anywhos is this weird of me and what do you think on my thoughts on whether to stya a virgin or not.

And please don't tell me the "folloy my heart" or "you'll know when you're ready" thing. i just wan't a really honest opinion b/c right now, I really wanna just have sex with all my crushes

I would say its pretty normal for you to feel this way. Its called lust. And sex isnt like it is shown on tv, is nots all hot and passionate and sweaty. I am a virgin so you are probably thinking how in the heck would you know?! I;ve taken so many sex ed classes, and health classes, I go to a private school, and I suppose maybe that is why. But thats not the point. What teens forget is that, sex is awkward, you have to be "naked" with someone else. Exposing all your flaws, and insecurities to someone. I'm pretty sure you want that to be with someone you trust, and with someone who loves you for that. Not someone who only wants your body, or because you want their body. I mean this person could be a complete hottie, but their personality could suck. You could go and have sex with someone you think is so hot, but then you will be emotionally attatched. For the rest of your life. You wont ever forget the first person you slept with. I have friends who had made the mistake of having sex, young, and regretting it. They regret it because they cant take it back, and they broke up with that boyfriend of the month. In highschool and middle school, sex isnt right then. Everyone just wants to experience things, but they are also too niave to see that, any relationship they are going to be in during their middle school - highschool years, its not permananent, and its not likely they will ever get married. And that is because people change.
I think you should stay a virgin, you will be glad you did when meet the right person. I seriously mean that,and I know you said you didnt want to hear it like that. But its true, you are kinda too young to maybe understand the true purity of meeting the person you will love forever (i am too, i'm still grasping the concept) but just remember you wont regret waiting.

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(Rating: 5) Never thought of it in that perspective. Thanks =D

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