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Dear advicenators.
I'm a guy, 19 years old, and there's a girl (she's about one and a half years younger) I'm really close friends with. She always comes to me with stuff she would never tell anyone else. But recently, she takes offense in everything I say to her. Today was particularly bad. I would go watch her game (she plays a sport of which I'm not even sure if there is an english name for it) today, and tonight we would hit the town and go out with some friends. This morning I told her that I wasn't feeling very well (I suffer from migraine attacks regularly) and asked if she would really mind it if I would skip the game so I could let my headache pass and still go out with her tonight. She didn't take that very well. Her boyfriend sort of dumped her yesterday so I expected that she would be displeased, but I explained very carefully that I was really sorry and wished I could come to her game. But despite that she was very pissed and told me she didn't want me to come along tonight.
Stuff like this happens a lot recently, even when she and her boyfriend were still together with no problems. She is not the most reasonable type, so asking her what's the matter or why she acts this way doesn't really help. So I was hoping one of you might have the insight it takes to shed some light on this mystery. Why does she act, no, overreact like this all the time? (link)
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Girls ARE by nature, very sensitive and quite self-centred at times.
Girls are very emotional.
Girls in general are rather insecure and skeptical bout the people around them. For wat reasons, I really don't know.
They are very sensitive and even if you mean no harm in what you say, they might take it the wrong way and get offended. Getting easily offended is an evidence of insecurity.
They think a lot. It runs probably in our XX chromosomes.
I think the reason why she's so snappy these days is cos she recently just broke up with her bf. She could be feeling lonely. And therefore she expects you, being her confidante, to be there for her regardless of whatever bad situation you're in.
I know you must be thinking that there are other girls who say "hey its alright, take good care and rest well yea". I can honestly tell you that even these girls will feel a little upset at you not being able to be there for them when THEY NEED YOU THE MOST. Yup. Note those words in caps.
It may seem to be just a game you're going to but to her, your presence could mean support and companionship.
It is difficult for a guy to completely understand the girl. It is in fact very difficult for a guy to even understand half of the characteristics of a girl let alone talk bout her whole personality.
Even I myself sometimes don't understand why are girls so damn petty.
Basically, in a nutshell, she is pissed with you because she feels that you are not there for her when she needs you. She doesnt feel the ASSURANCE from you. That's is why she's angry.
Try assuring her like saying "hey I really have a bad headache. I'd really love to go if I was feeling fine. You can call me after the game to talk bout the game or anything else if you want. etc etc"
The point isnt bout going to her game. The point is bout how much you're willing to be there for her.
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