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Q: Please please help...I used to like this boy a lot..Before being together he mentioned that he has already a girlfriend..I told him to break up with her otherwise there is not even a possibility to be with me..He told me that he would do but he needs time because he was with her for about 3 months.I told ok.But after tow days he told me that he had not the chance to do it but he will do it soon.(We were together these 2 days)I told him that i don't want to be with him anymore...He made efforts to be with me but i refused.I did not tell him the truth.I told him that we just hurried up and that we don't know each other a lot...We stopped talking each other.Every Sutterday juring summer we used to go to the same cafes.He was with her.Now, i have a friend Ann who used to be friend with him the period we were together.She told me that he would break up that he used to like me very much, maybe too much AND that he didnt like his girlfriend but he was with her only because he had had sex with her.Now we started talking again.He first talked to me..I starded liking him again for once more.He is STILL with the idiot UGLY REALLY UGLY girlfriend..He is looking at me and smiling...i went somewhere noone was and he came there after some minutes..My friends tell me that he likes me.I like him.But i don't think that he will be with me again.It is said that he likes his girlfriend.He is really popular so everyone knows about him..I don t know..How can he like a girl who used to mean nothing to him?What should i do now???I mean, i would like to be with him but how?????????Please tell me...I want him to be with me only with me.I cry and cannot forgive myself for being that idiot.
thats a complicated one...but ill try to help as much as i can! so first of all, stop blaming yourself for everything. HE was being the idiot... when he really wanted to be with you and leading you on like that but not breaking up with his girlfriend. you did nothing wrong. it was good of you to be the bigger person and say that you wouldnt be with him when he still had a girlfriend. but so now you like him again. and boy do i know how this feels.. you say he's popular and everyone knows a lot about him. i had stop at this for a second..i know some people who were/are very popular and yet a lot of people know nothing about them. they assume. so what they say could be true, maybe he has developed new feelings for this girlfriend. or maybe he's with her because..(i know its shallow) there's no one else he'd go out with. i think you should keep talking to him like you have been and since this wouldnt be the first time to break the ice and talk about it, go ahead and tell him how you feel. say your giving him one more chance to be together and if he cant do that then just forget about him. you dont need someone that keeps hurting you like this. xoxo helpachick

thank you very much...i think that you are right....

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helpachick
hey im helpachick & i want to help you if i can. more than most of the questions i answer i have experienced something close to that myself. so feel free to ask&leave stuff in my inbox or whatever, and i'll try to get back soonish.

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I'm in college majoring in Fashion Textiles and Merchandising. I love fashion, boys, my friends, music, and love being active and outdoors. theres a lot more i could put about me but this is advicenators not myspace!!
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