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Hi, I'm going into 10th grade 16/m- and school hasn't even started yet...
Well.. the harrassment has been going on since 4th grade...
Basically all the popular people and the majority of my class think that I'm a fag (like gay).. but I'm not.. I have a girlfriend of 6 months.. and we're really happy together...
I don't even act gay at all.. everyone just thinks I am.. and I think it's because most of my friends are girls.. but I don't understand why that would make me gay- because wouldn't that mean that I like hanging out with girls because they are nice to me??
I just feel like no one cares about me and everyone is making fun of me
Another thing.. I am one of the smartest people in the class (4.0 average).. and I always do good on tests.. do people make fun of me because they are jealous that I get good grades and they don't.. I mean I don't go around bragging about my grades.. people ask me what I got.. and I just tell them in a modest way...
I don't understand why everyone thinks I'm a homo.. when I'm not...
oh.. and on myspace- I put up a picture that was the one everyone does (upside down peace sign with big sunglasses).. so then one of the people who makes fun of me posts a comment about it saying "wow ur a homo" so i posted a comment back saying "i was making fun of myspace.. lol".. so then he posts regular comments saying stuff like "i wasn't kidding about the pic comment" and "everyone thinks you're a fag" and "we hate you"...
So that just made me think of how much my class despises me- and I don't even say anything mean to them.. I try being nice.. but they just aren't.. the only ones who actually care about me are my close friends.. and that's only like 10 people max. outta the 250-300 in my class...
Am I just worried about nothing?
Am I really that much of a loser?
Please don't say "go talk to a counselor" because I tried that in middle school and the counselor was really stupid about it
Please help!
sorry this was so long
Hey I'm going to be in tenth grade this year too, and that sucks that people are still SO IMATURE. I would say dont let it bother you, but it already has and it hurts too I'm sure. You sound like a sweet boy. They probably dont like you because you are different, and most people have problems accepting people who are "different, or more unique than other" which is sad, because variety is such the spice of life. Otherwise it would be so so boring and bland. Hey but you know the 10 people that do like you, that means the world to you. Treasure them, and feel bad for the people making fun of you, because I guess I would, that they have to go SO LOW to call someone gay,fag, and make up romours, and try to hurt someones feelings intentially. Wait until they grow up, they are going to live with this guilt forever. I mean, what they are doing now, it may not affect them now, but it will someday.
Your not worried about nothing, your worried about how long this is going ot keep up, why they are doing it, but people are shallow and dumbm and niave. We all need to grow up sometimes, especially them.
You do sound like a smart, extroadinary person, I'm so sorry these kids are being mean and cruel. I know what it feels to be picked on, just never that badly, but I know it hurts and its stressful. I don tthink you are a loser either. You have been the bigger person in this situation, so they are the losers.
If you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to IM me at KaylehMae :]
(Rating: 5) thank you so much
you're a great girl