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This might be kinda long and in depth i apreaciate it if you read all of it.

First of all im 19/f and my boyfriend is also 19. We'll call him J. Ok, so J and I have been together for 3 years, four next july. He treats me better than I could ever ask, and does things for me. We planned on getting married and probably having children together. The thing is over the past 2 years I've gotten really sick. I spend alot of time at hospitals and in doctors offices. Ever since six months ago, I've been on treatment for cervical cancer. It's working but the side affects are making me sicker than ever. Some days it's even hard for me to get out of bed. So what I'm getting at.. I always feel so guilty and upset about hurting him because of my sicknesses. I don't feel like a good girlfriend because I can't do some of the things he does for me. He tells me not to worry about it and it'll be worth the wait, but it isn't that simple for me. I feel like he deserves better, someone that can do things for him and make him happy. I know he isn't. I know how bad he wants kids, and now I might not be able to give him that. We don't get to do alot together and we LIVE together. It sucks so bad I don't even know what to do anymore. Any advice would mean alot to me.

Thanks

Its not your fault that your sick.
And your boyfriend loves you and you love him,
love will find a way to make things work.
I know you feel guilty about him always helping you and you cant do much for him. But its okay wait, and one day you might have to do the same for him. Just remind him how much he loves you and that you appreciate him, it will make him feel really good. Simple words with meaning that come from the heart really help.
And You'll be in my prayers,
I hope you get better soon.
And that you stop feeling sick.
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