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My 17 year old is 5'6" and weighs over 200 lbs.
She also has a very large bust and upper body--such as abdominal fat. I have tried everything to get her to diet & exercise, and our house is full of nutritional food. She has been to the Dr for this also, but chooses not to take an active roll in her health.

She says she is happy the way she is. She buys expensive clothes, but they do not fit right. For example today she had a sports bra on and she was litterly hanging out--and it was more noticable because she was wearing a skin tight t-shirt. She also wears low wasted pants, and either her crack is showing or she is walking around hanging on to her pants.

I have tried to take her shopping, I have bought her clothes, I have showed her pictures of plus size models, but she refuses to have any part of it. I have never intended to hurt her feelings, but the bottom line is I hate to have people gawking and making fun of her. She says "I don't care what they think, why do you?" I have tried to tell her she will get along in the working world better if she dresses to suit her body style, but of course she doesn't listen.

Any suggestions on how to help her either lose weight or dress better?

It seems like your fighting a losing battle. If she just doesnt want to listen, then there's not much you can do, except maybe go buy her some of the jeans she normally wears (lowrise) and get them a size larger. And MAYBE she'll wear em'. Also, get her some cute bras in a bigger cup size and some shirts with cute sayings on them, also a size larger. Have them layin on her bed for her when she gets home (It'll be a nice suprise and maybe she'll find a couple thigns shes willing to wear out of what you picked out. (Save the reciepts :) Also, I doubt ppl are making fun of her, though she is 200 lbs, she is also 5"6 so it even it's self out. I'm only 5 ft tall and I weigh 168 and it LOOKS like I weigh 200 because I am so short. no one has ever gawked or made fun of me (I'm an adult) Yes, she does need to lose weight but there is nothing that you can do to make her if she just doesn't want too. Also, not saying you do this, but don't tell her she's FAT, or will never get a man or everyone's laughing at her or stuff like that. Those comments don't help and only bring on even worser eating habits.

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