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Hey..sorry its soo long i hope you can help im the one usually giving advice if you ever need some ask me!
I hav been going out for this guy let's call him Josh for almost 10 months. We hav an amazing relationship and he really is my best friend. We have one problem his ex girlfriend is insane. She is obssesed with him and there is a long story behind that but just to make it short she is jealous and she wants him and her and I got into a big thing. I don't liek to start things and i do stand up for myself but i don't liek having enemies. About 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend started treating me like crap. This is 2 weeks ago: Saturday night we got into a fight because his ex's friends were starting stuff with my friends. I told him that i didn't know if i cood take i anymore. We weren't on the best page. Since it is summer we don't see eachother that much he went to camp before these 2 weeks and now he's on vacation. SO back to Saturday so that happened then on Sunday we talked and he was mad and upset. On monday we were planning to see eachother on tuesday but my friends messed it up. Also on monday we had a long talk about his ex and hwo i feel like he doesn't stand up for me like he should. When our plans got ruined for tuesday i was upset but it seemed like he didn't even care. On tuesday he called me at night and we didn't talk much but i asked him what he did today and he said nothing and that he's been thinkin about alot. I got a little worried. Well anyways Wedneday came n i went to my friends house with him and all my friends.I decided to just forget about everything because he was leaving that friday and i thought it would be the last time i would see him so i wanted it to be good. It somehow came up and he wanted to talk and said that i don't feel like he is really intersting and all that and he simply told me that he was just thinking that the relationship is getting too serious as in commitment wise. I understood because we are still young but how could he tell me he loves me if he doesn't wanna be with me. Well anyways on thursday i found out that on wednesday night he slept at his friends house and he did a camera thing with one ofmy friends theyw ere all joking but he told her to pull her shirt down more so her boobs would show. It's so hard to even write this because he's so not like this. On thursday night i found out earlier that day his ex adn her friends came over to swim with his friends. Just to amek it short on friday i saw him for 2 minutes and i was planning on talking to him about it but he could only stay for like 5 minutes. He was being an ass and he just left and said i love you bye. He's on vacation right now and i don't know what to do when he comes back. Thanx for reading this .What should i do?HE was never liek this before and all of a sudden he was acting liek an ass. I'm confused and i think i will regret iof i break up with him but at the same time i want him to go out with his exand see how diffent it is and realize he needs me but then i feel like i'd look like an idiot if i go back with him if he comes back to me later
please hlp thanx soo much for reading this. I'm 14 and a girl.lol

WOW lol. ok first things first. If you want to keep him you need to get everyone else in check before he gets back. Your friend that pulled her shirt down so her boobs would show...ummmm uh-uh.
Whatever way it was took- that was flirting. I'd tell her I didnt appreciate her showin her tits like that. Next thing...the ex-girlfriend. What's up with her? I'm assumin they broke up on bad terms for her to turn into a stalker/bitch. Let her know.... *IF* he wanted you so bad, he would be with you. Take a hint. Now..Moving on to the boyfriend... It's time for a serious talk with him. Let him know that regardless if he wants a SERIOUS relationship with you or not that you still demand respect. (Him telling that girl to pull her shirt down & dissin' you at places) Girl, if you put your foot down now..things will work out so much better for you in the end. Let him know you love him but you won't continue to be treated as 2nd best. When he get's back from vacation.. DONT CALL HIM. Let him come to you. You want you to be in his head not him all up in yours. Now, Let's say he wants to break up for whatever reason... Say ok if that's the way you want it...and leave it at that. Let him see you having fun, going out, doing your thing. Even if yall were at a party and he danced with another girl (he would only do that to piss you off) then you just keep lauging and hangin it with your friends like you couldn't give 2 shits if he was even there or not. This will make him come CRAWLING back to you. Humans always want what they think they can't have. ~*Always remember that*~

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