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my mother has a big mouth and i can't deal with it anymore. she's always talking crazy. like, she says she is going to leave from this house and that nobody is ever going to see not even her hair anymore and she says that she's very sick and is going to end up in the hospital, when she knows she isn't and she should be cherishing her health. but, today she got out of control with her stupid big mouth! i was getting this little cheerleading outfit for a football game and she said that if i wore that i was nothing more than a retard and that all i look like is a self-concious monkey. other than that, she thinks she's a teenager and she truly and honestly tries to do everything in a teenager's perspective. well, today, when she told me that i was a retard, i started crying because i'm tired of her offending me. she's told me that 100 times. i told her i hated her and that she's changed, and i went away crying. when i was leaving the house to go to my aunt's house across the street, i apologized to her for having told her i hated her. i don't hate her, but i hate how she calls me names. as i was leaving my grandmother told me to apologize to her for having told her that SHE CHANGED! wow. so i told her but i told my grandmother that she should also be sorry for having called me names and my own grandmother said she shouldn't be sorry. she is always offending me with her big mouth, and right now when i told her she shouldn't have called me that she told me "do you want me to call you that again?" so that's it! i can't deal with her anymore. she's not the same sweet lady that use to take care of me and smile at me when i was a baby. that's when she was going through a divorce because my father left our family for an alchoholic stripper at a bar. so, then if anything was when she should have been hysterical. not now. and that has affected me too so i'm not being selfish. everyone acts like it didn't happen to me, but how do you think i feel? it hurts me too, you know. so, if my mom is constantly on myspace thinking she's a teenager, how does she expect me to respect her when all i see her as is a little sister because that's what she's acting like. why is everyone taking her side and saying that she has the right to call me names? it's not fair! no one cares about anything and the way that i feel! my heart is going super fast and i can't live like this anymore. i have to stop this fighting now. i was hoping that if any of you could, if you could tell me a way that i could apologize or make her stop. a way to make her stop calling me names and not caring. i want it to catch up to her. i want it to haunt her in her sleep fall the insults that she's said. how can i do this? and how can i still make her think i'm not a bad daughter, because of right now i don't think she every wants to speak with me again
15/f
signed,
anxiously waiting
Oh my
Dear Anxiously Waiting,
I feel for you so bad, I'm seroius,
my heart goes out for you, because I've never been in a situation that complicated.
I mean it sounds like your mom wants to be young again? But your mom has NO right at all to call you names, let a lone retard, Thats a horrible name to call anyone, its mocking mentally ill people and I dont think its appropriate. Dont apologize to your mom, becuase you didnt do anything, its her who has the obvious issue. I mean and your grandma, I cannot beleive she said that either.
I highly HIGHLY suggest you go talk to a counsular about this, I mean you cant grow up like this. Think about your future :(
Dear, If you need anyont to talk to feel free for IMing me at any of my address on my advice column.
But you really need to get your mom some help, I mean shes not a teenager and she needs to take care of you, not be like you, I mean your fifteen, you need a mentor and an adult, but one whos being good, so you can look up to her.
I feel so bad, I hope things get better.
Let me know how things go. Your in my prayers.
(Rating: 5) thank you so much! you're advice is great and i'm glad to see that there is good people in the world. thank you for ur advice=)