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My 12 year old son has been bullied by a boy in our neighborhood for several years now. My son has a lot of friends, but of course all his friends are around his age and scared of the bully.

The bully (Gary) is 15. A few years ago my husband and I talked to Gary's parents, because he stole a toy from my son on the school bus. Gary claimed not to have the toy, and his parents protected him--and said we were in the wrong. This only child is perfect according to them. I have given up on going to the parents. The attitude of the police is "boys will be boys" (we live in a small town).

I caught Gary in the act a couple of weeks ago. He jumped on, and broke a ramp that my son and his friends built for their bikes. I told him he was acting like a 6 year old, and that someday someone bigger and meaner will come along and "take him out". He rode off on his bike in a hurry! However now he harasses my son about telling "Mommy". Last night he threw big rocks at my son's bike, causing some damage to paint. Apparently it even makes things worse if I interfear. Usually I do leave it to my son to settle disagreements, but this boy has crossed the line.

My 21 year old son, is 6'4, 240 lbs but If I use him to intimidate the 15 year old, this would be no different than a 15 year old picking on a 12 year old. Although...I doubt Gary has paid much attention to big brother. He'd probably be scared of him, we all know Gary is a coward in disguise.

My son does not want to walk away, because this means he would have to leave his other friends behind, plus he wants to "look tough" Any tips on dealing with a neighborhood bully?

The child's parents are no help and the cops are no help, so time to take matters into your own hands. I assume you bought that bike. That would seriously piss me off whith that little spawn of satan child throwing rocks and messing up the paint on it. Next time his bike is near your son, have him throw rocks at it. To each his own as they say. That might seem childish but really what else is there? He needs to see how it feels and yes if I had another son (the 21 year old) I would def. use him at my advantage to scare the 15 year old into leaving my other son alone. If all esle fails, time to get nasty with the parents and send them a bill for any damages his son did & tell them to keep there son away from your son and your property. You may not can do anything about the boy in general but you can charge him with tresspassing if he comes onto your property. Go buy a No Tresspassing sign and put it up.

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