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HEY THIS IS HAILEY! I AM 13 AND I'M IN THE 8TH GRADE. I'M ALSO ON THE BETA CLUB, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER HAD STRAIGHT A'S; I GUESS THEY JUST LIKED ME. I HAVE 1DOG, 2CATS, AND 1PARAKEET. I LOVE TO GIVE ADVICE BUT IF I DONT UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, OR WHAT U WROTE, THEN U JUST MIGHT HAVE TO ASK SOMEONE ELSE. NOW U KNOW A LITTLE BOUT ME, SO START ASKING AWAY!~~~~~~~~~HAILEY~~~~~~~~~~
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My 12 year old son has been bullied by a boy in our neighborhood for several years now. My son has a lot of friends, but of course all his friends are around his age and scared of the bully.
The bully (Gary) is 15. A few years ago my husband and I talked to Gary's parents, because he stole a toy from my son on the school bus. Gary claimed not to have the toy, and his parents protected him--and said we were in the wrong. This only child is perfect according to them. I have given up on going to the parents. The attitude of the police is "boys will be boys" (we live in a small town).
I caught Gary in the act a couple of weeks ago. He jumped on, and broke a ramp that my son and his friends built for their bikes. I told him he was acting like a 6 year old, and that someday someone bigger and meaner will come along and "take him out". He rode off on his bike in a hurry! However now he harasses my son about telling "Mommy". Last night he threw big rocks at my son's bike, causing some damage to paint. Apparently it even makes things worse if I interfear. Usually I do leave it to my son to settle disagreements, but this boy has crossed the line.
My 21 year old son, is 6'4, 240 lbs but If I use him to intimidate the 15 year old, this would be no different than a 15 year old picking on a 12 year old. Although...I doubt Gary has paid much attention to big brother. He'd probably be scared of him, we all know Gary is a coward in disguise.
My son does not want to walk away, because this means he would have to leave his other friends behind, plus he wants to "look tough" Any tips on dealing with a neighborhood bully?
I'm about your sons age and I know how it is with bullys. Boys like to fight fire with fire and win, girls too, and not seem like a chicken who can't stand up for himself/herself. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't help your son. I bet if you found a way to scare Gary then he'll steer clear from your son. Maybe he's afraid of a certain animal or bug. If so tell your son about it more than likely he'll think of a way to use it to his advatage. Then if Gary's parents think it was him say that your son would never do something like that. Just like they think of Gary. Or move. Not far, just far enough to get away from him. Act like you just got a job promotion somewhere. That way it won't look like your running because of him, because it'll just make him think more highly of himself.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~
(Rating: 5) I am rating a five because scaring him with a bug or animal is a unique idea. Although we can't really move at this time. But still..cute answer.