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A little more than 25 years ago, I met a guy who became a friend. About three years after we met, he took my car out one night, got drunk and smashed it up. I had to pay to tow the car away, junk it, and for tickets. Cost me over $1,000 at the time. He never offered to pay me for the damages to my car.

He was doing bad financially at that time and I figured that later on, when he was doing well, over time he would find some way to compensate me because we were still "friends."

Fast forward 25 years. This "friend" is single and doing well, owns house, car, good job, etc. Last year I borrowed $300 from him to buy emergency plane tickets, and told him I'd pay him back when I could. About three weeks later, he began to demand repayment in full. He was nasty about it so I reminded him about his car wreck 25 years ago. Nobody made him pay then.

He was still angry; I was stunned. No, I did not ever pay him back. The crisis has passed but I want to know, who's right about this? Should he get his $300 back? And what about people who think the passage of time relieves them of their financial and moral obligations? Your help please....

Wow I'm going thru this to. Last year this friend of mine asked could she borrow my truck for the night, I said yes but jokingly remarked you wreck it, you bought it. Turns out, she wrecked it. I told her I would split the deductible with her to be nice which ment she owed me her half of $250.00 she NEVER payed. Fast forward, I sold my computer to her for $300.00 she gave me the cash and time went on.. I wanted to buy the computer back from her. I gave her 100.00 and promised to give her the rest later, times got tough for a bit and I didn't pay her and she demanded the other $200.00 I wrote her a letter and told her by me keeping the computer and not paying her the rest it made us even for her wrecking my truck. Yea we no longer talk. I feel as though I am right in this situation. When he wrecked your car and you had to dish out all that money the right thing for him to of done was payed you back. Don't feel bad for what you did. Just because time elapsed it in no way minimizes the 1 thousand dollars you had to shell out that nite so now really the only thing to be done to make the situation right is for him to pay you $700.00 and make it even. Will you ever see that money probably not, but you got $300.00 out the deal so call it even.

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