I have a best friend whom I've known since the 7th grade, and one of the things we promised each other in our ring of friends is that "Friends come first always before boyfriends." However, I feel that this best friend of mine is not keeping this promise. Besides being close friends with me, she also had this really close guy-friend since the 7th grade, who has now become her boyfriend. I know that I should understand that its okay for her to be closer to him because they were close before, and are now in a relationship together, but I feel hurt that its against what we promised... Like, she would always, always stress it to to us that friends are always first, but this now seems hypocritical... We rarely talk on the phone anymore, or talk at all because she's always spending time with her boyfriend... What can I do to repair this friendship, or to understand???
Thank you very much. (16/f - Junior)
People are going to say what they want and of course people are going to change whether they want to or not. This happened with my best friend and my boyfriend. We made the same promise. But as soon as she got a boyfriend she dicked me over so bad, he treated me like shit, and I hated him. After they broke up, I got a boyfriend. She got mad at me for always being with him when she did the same thing.
Where am I going with all of this?
-1. She thinks her boyfriend treats her better than you do.
-2. She is just growing up.
or -3. She doesn't mean to hurt you.
I would talk to her about this. I mean, she should atleast have time to call you. But think of it this way, when you get a boyfriend that you really like, are you going to not hang out with him as often as you like because of a promise you made in seventh grade?
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Thank you so much! I feel that you truly understood me. Thanks again!
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