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I know we all have insecurities, but I'm pretty sure no one is as paranoid as I am. I'm not fat, but I'm not really skinny either. All the girls in my school seriously look like they are anorexic and the guys are all over them. I thought guys like curvy girls. Anyway, my best friend is a freakin' twig, and she has all these guys all over her. Seriously. It doesn't stop. Two of them even came to her house when she was sick because they're like obsessed with her because she's so beautiful. And I know I'm not ugly, but something inside of me keeps telling me that I am, and I need to get skinnier and more slutty and wear more make-up or stop wearing my hear a certain way. I used to be a really confident girl, but it's all changed now. I know like 2 guys think I'm hot, but that's TWO guys out of the whole school. Everyone likes my best friend. I mean everyone. It makes me sick.

So, my question is, how do I make that little voice inside my head stop saying "you're so fat, you need to be more like Danielle" or "don't do your makeup like that, that looks gross"?

I go through the same thing you do. I know that really, I'm not as fat as I think I am. I am not a stick, but I'm not a blimp either... I'm fine. But sometimes it feels like its not good enough, right? When I get to the point where I can't really handle it anymore I start thinking differently. Yeah, it might be nice to have all these guys like you and want you but deep down I'm better than that. Is it possible that you're not as outgoing as your friend? If thats the case, then you should start being more outgoing and start talking to more people & guys. It can also give you a boost of confidence. I know it does for me when I'm interacting with someone or even a cute boy, it makes me feel a little better. And all guys are different. Yeah, they may be all over your friend but I'll bet that half of them are just typical high school boys. They don't see her as a girl who they would actually have a relationship with... they just see her as more of an object. Honestly, I would rather have 2 great guys like me for me and they see me as girlfriend-material rather than a whole school full of boys that just want to get in my pants.

I'm taking your word for it. You're not fat but you're not skinny either. I don't know if this is considered good advice--but what I do when I start feeling like I'm fat because of the way everyone around me looks, I walk on my treadmill. I've had bad eating habits in the past and that isn't necessarily a good way to go. For me, eating healthy & just walking can really make me feel really good about myself. And don't worry about your friend. Be yourself, seriously. Don't change just to be on the same level as your friend and don't change for guys. It will not make you happy. And certainly don't become more slutty because in the end you won't be happy.

Just concentrate on being you, your interaction with others and eat healthy. I know the eating healthy sounds a little off topic but for me, it has a lot to do with how I feel and my self-esteem so I'm just sharing that with you. Hope I helped.
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