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i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore idk please help!!!

You say you don't want to talk to her but you want to be friends with her? Honestly how is that going to work? I know what you're going through, I've gotten into a fight with my best friend. We yelled at eachother & she said I wasn't a good best friend, or even a friend at all. We were mad at eachother for about two weeks. I totally missed her just like you missed your friend. Yeah I know, how can I miss her after she called me that? But I did. I'm not usually the one to go up to people in this situation and apologize first. But I did. I went up to her and I told her that I never wanted us to stop talking. And both of us opened up about the whole thing and well... we were friends again. Then last year, some other stuff happened and again, another fight. Only this time we never really made up or talked about it we just... let the whole thing go. If I see her walking down the hall I'll smile at her or whatever. Honestly I miss her but I really don't want to be her best friend again, things were just too difficult. But I don't recommend holding grudges especially if they're from 8th grade. You want to enter high school as fresh as possible.

I'm sorry but the only thing you can do is just go up to her and say "Hey, listen. We're starting high school next year and I really don't want to hold any grudges. I miss you, you were a great friend and if you want to do this whole high school thing together we can, if not hey... at least I'm over this fight." Then stand there for a second to see if she has anything to say. If its something bitchy, just ignore it and walk away. At least you made the attempt and you'll feel better. I doubt that she'll keep hating you if you don't hate her anymore.

And seriously, walking down the halls with anger in your eyes is really immature. Don't bring that to high school. Talk to her.
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